When ever I read things like this I really wonder... Am I the only one here who knows how to relax and just go with the flow? My first time went like this:

In bed at night sleeping with her, cuddling:

Girl: (energetic) Want to do it?

Me: hehe calm down.. I really like...just this.

From there I just moved my hands slowly along her body, feeling her shapes. Calmly kissed her and took my time before going higher up to tease her breasts... Being a male and having nipples myself - I quickly figured out that they get sore. So I didn't do too much there - just a relaxing massage. Took a pause to catch my breath... this was enough for her to get really turned on. I've earlier trained myself to smoothly put on a condom...so I was prepared. I put it on while we caught our breath and went back to a relaxing pose. I was nervous, I didn't know if I'd like it... but I knew that A goes into B...taking my hand back onto her body (I always start at the waist or belly , it's neutral and won't surprise her) I slowly moved it down. I had no idea what to please down there...so I just ignored that part and kept going down with my hands - once I reached her kneecaps she was all over me, no stopping her, her hormones exploded inside her... from there I just relaxed and constantly learned what she liked by just being...relaxed. Of course I came quickly that time, but with a quick breath taker I told her I'll do it again... this time I could control myself better and I knew what wasn't her butthole... I enjoyed it for much longer...I kept on learning about her silently... my mind being relaxed - my body having sex...

Control is your key. Sex is overrated. Don't expect too much - and not too little.

Relax.