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I just realized I am not browsing OKC anonymously. (i.imgur.com)

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[–]Jamesx6 54 points55 points ago

Why bother browsing anonymously. Wouldn't that make things harder on yourself if you're actually trying to meet someone? My thinking is; Yes I'm on okcupid and so are you and yes I'm checking you out, so what? I'm not ashamed to check someone out on a dating site. Who knows maybe she'll see that you checked her out and she checks you out too and maybe you can make something there. Browsing anonymously seems counterproductive.

[–]ClutchReverie28/m/IL 17 points18 points ago

These are my thoughts and I am honestly surprised we seem to be in the minority.

[–]bleyva 5 points6 points ago

Other people being aware of your presence is inherently scary, I'm surprised that surprises you.

[–]ClutchReverie28/m/IL 8 points9 points ago

But isn't the point of signing up for a dating website for other people to be made aware of your presence?

[–]bleyva 1 point2 points ago

Yes, but to get to that point there is a scariness that all people have to overcome....and it's always kinda there.

[–]fingerflip 2 points3 points ago

I don't think they are the minority, I think people just like the gif

[–]youguysgonnamakeout 7 points8 points ago

I think it's more for if you want to continue stalking a person you're messaging. Other than that I agree, I like for someone to know I visited them.

[–]clashbuster 3 points4 points ago

exactly! and what the fuck is with all these okcupid ads saying "would you like to brows okcupid anonymously? only 5$!"

What? Why the fuck would I want to browse anonymously? why would I want to spend money to disable the possibilities of a free service? It makes zero sense.

[–]needs_more_protein 2 points3 points ago

Originally I thought OP meant that they included their actual name on their profile, but then I read this and am wondering the same thing as you. You'll never get a date if you don't look at people, and looking from the bushes is just...weird.

[–]SyntheticStart 2 points3 points ago

I thought I was set for anonymous while I was looking through all the other guys that live close to me, I was curious as to how I 'stacked up' against the other guys in my area.

Now I can't help but assume that those guys are a little wtf towards this strait guy that made repeat visits to their pages.

[–]mindyourmuffins 0 points1 point ago

Now THATS funny

[–]negroyverde19/M/Bi/CNY/CowboyEast 1 point2 points ago

Fuck it, you're totally right.

[–]Abstract_Logic 0 points1 point ago

Thats why I have a-list. I can browse anonymously and let people know I visited their profile if i choose too. I also dont miss out on who visits me, Its win win.

[–]eliasqfuntybunt23/M/Portsmouth, UK 0 points1 point ago

I met someone because she browsed my profile, I saw it and messaged her.

[–]_spiritmolecule2_20/m/atl 1 point2 points ago

that way you can creep all you want and no one will know

[–]senichi 0 points1 point ago

The way I see it, if you find someone that is attractive, you wanna know more about them. If you don't like what you see then you can back out and no repercussions. However, if you like what you see, you can feel free to not browse anonymously.

[–]foreverskepticalone20/M/Northern Europe 0 points1 point ago

When you're browsing anonymously you have the ability to choose to show up in people's Visitor lists, which means you have the ability to only make your presence known to the ones who interest you. In what way is that bad? If anything, it streamlines the process.

[–]Borneamann27 5 points6 points ago

For most of Aug I had the free anonymous browsing; that ended at midnight. The worst part is the app always opens on this same girls profile, I don't know why, but it wasn't really a big issue until this morning.

[–]okstupiderest25/M/Straight 5 points6 points ago

Try deleting your cache and/or re-installing the app.

[–]bluekoalabear23/F/NY 0 points1 point ago

I was able to go to the visitors page and renew the free browsing to Sept 15 (the one that came from an ad)

[–]gasinM.LosAngeles[S] -1 points0 points ago

I feel you pain. I am in the same boat. It was so good to just browse profile without coming across as creep. I feel like we should start a petition online to bring back anonymous browsing to all of the user :)

[–]xsvfan23/M/SF Bay 6 points7 points ago

I always assumed girls get so many views they don't notice one guy unless he is a habitual viewer. I've had girls view my profile, then message me days later. I don't find it creepy and it's nice to now a girl is interested in me.

[–]5kToSelfDestruction 4 points5 points ago

Just pay the money and you can have it. I don't think they would give away their primary source of making money for free...The cost is equal to about a couple of drinks at a bar.

[–]Universe_Man31/M/Fla. 3 points4 points ago

If you think looking at a girl's profile on an online dating site is creepy, I think you need to raise your threshold for what you consider creepy. If the girl is attractive enough, and the area you live in is dense enough, she's not even gonna notice. She'll get so many visitors in a day that your picture will scroll of her screen within a couple of hours.

[–]Unggoy_Soldier 4 points5 points ago

Why does anyone care if someone sees you browse their profile...?

[–]reallymyrealaccount 4 points5 points ago

OH FUCKING NO.

[–]schemeofthings29/f/Houston 6 points7 points ago

This is a good time to remind everyone that you can browse without being seen, if you are willing to turn off the notifications that tell you when other people browse you. Or, there's the paid account.

[–]s1500m/teebo1500/twin cities 2 points3 points ago

Don't worry, you'll scroll off from the hundreds of other guys checking her out.

[–]teep0 0 points1 point ago

You do realize you're still anonymous right? Do you think some random girl on the internet is going to try to discover your identity because you clicked on their tiny, tiny face on the nations largest free dating site?

[–]gatfishSomebody/Something/Somewhere 2 points3 points ago

Incognito mode, my friend. Incognito.... (Doesn't work for everyone though. Because it's like browsing while logged out, and some have that turned off)...

[–]TheloniusChipmunk30s/m/westside 1 point2 points ago

I'm not sure I follow that. Are you actually logged in? Like, can you read and send messages? And does it show up in your profile saying that your last login time is that session (don't like feeling like my logins can be watched!)?

[–]PatricioINTP34/M/Cen. IL 3 points4 points ago

Its basically like logging out of everything you are usually logged into, plus websites can't read any cookies. In other words, like visiting a website for the first time. However if a profile requires one to be a logged in member to view it, it doesn't work.

[–]TheloniusChipmunk30s/m/westside 0 points1 point ago

Ok, thanks. That's what I was guessing. I just use a different browser for that (plus this reddit login).

Rats. I wish OkC wouldn't report when I logged in last. I mean, I get why they have it, so you can see if a profile is dead, but still.

[–]gatfishSomebody/Something/Somewhere 2 points3 points ago

No you're not logged in because it's like browsing without any cookies. You could log in, but as soon as you close the window you'd be logged out. So it's essentially the same as browsing logged out, but you can do it quickly in its own window so you don't need to log out and in again. (edit: haha, PatricioINTP and I gave basically the same answer at the same time, but i'll leave it up anyway, since maybe one is clearer than the other, IDK.)

[–]pennyman86 -1 points0 points ago

I have gotten messages from more woman by just looking at their profile with this turned off. Then sending messages to them and hoping they reply. If you see they look at your profile its most of the time they seem to be interested. Also my profile consists of no text and just my one picture and I have scored easily 10+ dates in 3 months.

[–]Disciplinz 3 points4 points ago

its must be nice being good looking

[–]pennyman86 0 points1 point ago

I will take it after losing 100 pounds, they sure didn't care before that.

[–]discworldian 1 point2 points ago

Once in a while I see the same profile visiting me again and again over the course of a fee weeks - if they are massively incompatible I hide them, if they are massively compatible I will send them a message. Usually I just ignore visitors.

[–]sexylilphil26/M/Cheshire, CT -1 points0 points ago

I have no issue with someone knowing I'm viewing them. I don't want them knowing that I keep returning to their profile so I use a screen capture program to save it so I can refer to that... Somehow less creepy

[–]ichbinladen 0 points1 point ago

I've had two profiles and to be honest I've been the recipient of far more "first messages" when anonymous than when they can see that I've visited. Maybe it has to do with some people feeling like they are the hunter, or maybe it's just coincidence but I will say this: I have had more messages (and dates) in the last 3 months browsing anonymously than all of last year when I was not.

Of course it's anecdotal but I'm satisfied with my "discovery."

[–]okthrowaway208824/male/Boston/seeing someone from OKC 1 point2 points ago

And you care because?

[–]EnkiduEnkita 16 points17 points ago

...says the throwaway account.

[–]needs_more_protein 2 points3 points ago

Having an r/OKC throwaway is different from browsing anonymous on OKC. I don't understand it either. Why would it be weird for someone to know you visited their profile? Isn't that the entire reason for the site?

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