When someone does not say thank you after I hold the door open for them

SpottieOttieDopa · 10 days

I'm sorry, you would like it up here in Canada, that never happens here.

being_inappropriate · 11 days

I hate when that happens. I mean, I stand there for like 5 minutes just waiting for them to get to the door, all while making eye contact and smiling at them to let them know im friendly and all they can do is call me a pervert because I slapped their butt when they walk through the door. The nerve some people have.

Lapid · 10 days

If you're expecting a thank you, you're not doing it out of kindness. As unappreciative as it sounds, it's very much true. Do good deeds for the sake of being a good person instead of for the recognition of being a gentle(wo)man.

DRTYRYDR686 · 10 days

Granted it's always nice when people say thanks. Don't do nice things expecting people to acknowledge it. Just do it for the sake of being a good person.

gin_and_clonic · 10 days

I guess I'm one of those weird people who holds open doors for others because it makes their day easier, not because I'm fishing for praise.

Seriously, does every minor instance of offering help require other people to trip over themselves to thank you? Get over yourself!

biowtf · 10 days

I hate it when people hold the door open for me. I'm trying to avoid human interaction, I can interact with a door just fine.

backwards_undergoat · 10 days

You are such a passive aggressive asshole.

timecronus · 10 days

if your holding the door open for a "thank you", you're doing it wrong.

erryday_IAm_rustling · 10 days

Stop holding doors open if this makes you angry.

theTezuma · 11 days

I didn't ask you to open the door open for me. If you did it because you're nice, a thank you is not needed.

_ello_poppet_ · 10 days

no people. why can't you ever do something nice and expect nothing in return?

blopyblop · 10 days

Most people don't care if you hold the door. A lot of them would rather open the door themselves than having to talk to anyone.

xNoProblem · 10 days

i dont do it for the thank yous. i do it because it's polite

new-socks · 11 days

So you held the door for the sole purpose of getting some karma ?

humfuzz · 10 days

My internet lagged so it said 'fuck you', paused, then 'go fuck yourself'. When I rewatched the gif when it looped, the pause wasn't there. But I think it would be clever with the pause.

Ceriux · 10 days

If you do this for gratitude then you can only expect to be disappointed from time to time. If you're going to hold the door open for someone and you're truly just being nice and/or courteous then do it for that reason, and don't expect or want anything in return.

2hot2sexy4u · 10 days

Actually I hate when someone holds the door open for me. I'm completely fine opening it myself. But when someone is 10ft in front of me and holds it, I feel pressured to speed up or even run so that the person isn't standing there like an idiot while he watches me take my sweet-ass time. It's lose-lose. We should all not hold doors open for each other unless the person behind you is within 3ft

Gockel · 10 days

Smelling some Dyrus xpost-trolling here

drburropile · 10 days

What I really hate is when someone is 40 yards away from the door and you hold it for them and they don't run, so I have to waste more of time while I'm fishing for praise for doing something that is normal.

Feet2Big · 10 days

There is only one reason to hold a door open for someone else; to make the world a happier place. The problem is that some people think that THEY are the whole world.

Jlarkz · 10 days

I hate when they don't even look at you and keep walking.

serosis · 10 days

I do not even care. I say thanks but I never expect it back.

Usually when I hold the door open it is to avoid slamming it in someone's face, every other time it is a very attractive woman and I want to see her up close.

Andican · 10 days

Then don't open the door.... you're forcing someone to say thank you to you when they clearly could have done it themselves. You're not being nice if you're not doing it for nothing in return.

Boggster · 10 days

Did they ask you to hold it for them?

getmarshall · 10 days

I seriously called out some chick last night for this.

Long story short, we were heading over to this pizza place not far from the yearly brewfest in town, and, as we've all had happen before, one group wants in and the other out.

I open the door for the ladies coming out. There were about five. Each one of them said thank you except for the last one. Pretty girl, too, in a very expensive dress. Normally I would have said whatever, she's probably thinking that 4/5 thank yous was more than necessary.

It was the look she gave me. She looked right at me with that snotty, platinum blond, I'm better than you so fuck you and do shit for me because you're a lowly fuck look. Like she expected nothing less from a silly little mortal nobody like me.

"You're welcome," I yelled directly at her.

Didn't even flinch. Just kept walking.

Leek5 · 10 days

I just never expect a thank you. That way your never dissapointed, and if they thank then great.

gortanomard · 10 days

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH NOBODY ACKNOWLEDGES WHAT A NICE PERSON I AM!11!!! FRIENDZONED!!! FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCK YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOu

MrBeardsly · 10 days

i don't understand why it is necessary to be thanked for every little stupid fucking gesture one makes. just do something nice and be done with it. I'm sorry if that one little "thank you" was going to make or break your fucking day. I've done far greater for people than hold a damn door and received far less than a "thank you". just accept that some people aren't going to say anything and go about your day. seriously.

Nayr39 · 10 days

I never expect a thank you, it's a just a common thing people do for one another. I can open the door myself fine, if your'e so upset about it just let me open it myself.

Toastermaface · 10 days

I feel like that would more so apply to a retail/foodservice setting.

Here's your order man/woman blabbing on your cellphone acting like you're in the biggest damn hurry in the world.

Then they promptly leave, without so much as eye contact or even acknowledging your existence.

THIS.. is for them.

skybluskyblue · 10 days

Socially awkward woman thinks that you would be angry because she thinks she would sound stuck-up if she said "thank you". Extremely shy people think this way at times. Socially awkward woman remembers being mocked as a child by another child when she said "thank you".

angry_squidward · 10 days

As a girl in college that works in a hospital and a research building, I walk through a LOT of doors that are held by a lot of male workers and I try to say thank you as much as possible but honestly it gets annoying after a while and I just don't bother. I did once have a girl say "you're welcome" in a bitchy tone to me because I didn't say thanks when she she did the half assed door hold with the back arm as you're walking through right behind them thing.

omgdinosaurs · 10 days

Do you guys really think screaming "YOURE WELCOME!" is doing anything other than making you look like a petty asshole? I think this is actually more pathetic than not having the courtesy to say "thank you."

Atticus_Cardinal · 10 days

IF this is all it takes for someone to get a "fuck you" attitude on, then STOP HOLDING DOORS OPEN. I picture one of those "I'm so cool and tis unfair I'm constantly friend-zoned" types posting this. Maybe people can sense you're only nice to be manipulative; even if what you want here is an ego-bribe, I shudder to think what you'd expect from a date after dinner if you paid. The quid pro quo attitude is insidious.

Maybe what you see as rudeness from others is a polite request to stay away and stop being so creepy. Once I had serious shit on my mind. It put me off people pleasing for a moment or two, and I got the "you're welcome," after going through a door when I'd been reading my mom's obit, or otherwise lost in thought. I didn't ask them to open the fucking door. Didn't really notice. Condescension is not as attractive as people think.

This attitude also comes from an exclusive mono-lingual and mono-cultural mindset. If you've ever lived in diverse culture you'll realize not everyone can say what you want them to in your language. Even if they can some people are too intimidated to speak even though their language skills are good. Women don't speak to strange men in 1/2 dozen cultures I can think of off the top of my head. So , fuck them for not sharing my values?

This recurring meme is another symptom of an entitled mentality that thinks the world revolves around them, and is enraged when anything hints that it doesn't. Holding a door open doesn't entitle you to shit. It's a nice thing to do, but if not getting a thank you pisses you off, you aren't a nice person. The transactional mentality makes that clear. If you had any experience doing good in the world you'd realize how little your effort cost you, and how little you should expect.

I hold doors open too. Sometimes people say thanks; sometimes they don't; sometimes they say it with their eyes. Is eye contact good enough for you?

redditspice · 10 days

you need praise for doing a mundane task that is considered proper etiquette?

does your mommy pat you on the head after you use the big boy toilet?

you are the entitled fuck that ruins a generation, stop it

grencez · 10 days

Some people are just used to everyday acts of kindness. It's give and take, you know?

nachof · 10 days

What if you're sort of in a hurry and they seem to be too so you pass them really fast and there's no time to say both "good morning" and "thank you"? Which one should have priority in that case?

ThBurninator · 10 days

I should have done something to this degree earlier today. I held 3 different doors open for a girl that was walking behind me into my dorm building. I don't want to be praised for something like that, but a simple thank you is always nice.

BOOMBOXNOTATOY · 10 days

You're the guy who posted that gif of the kittens with that fainting disease... which later killed them. I watched 2 kittens dying because of you..

UsernameMadeNChina · 10 days

You're just showing off your act of kindness.

cipherous · 10 days

Same shit when you let people merge in your lane. "You're welcome asshole!"

vladley · 10 days

Wow, thats... that's an incredibly versatile image.

guruchild · 10 days

I like how I'm a grown man and I have to let people open the door for me and then pretend to be polite and say thanks. Bitch, get out of the way, a man is coming through the fucking door.

_debug_ · 10 days

So basically OP has never been to Hong Kong. Here, if you open doors, no acknowledgement. Simple. The only people who even keep doors open are expats.

singingTurtles · 10 days

Too much social anxiety to be making eye contact or talking to strangers!

mjf18 · 10 days

Ayup. That is all, carry on.

Thenightsky123 · 10 days

So much for "today you... tomorrow me"

explosive_haboob · 10 days

As long as they go through the door, I don't care.... what pisses me off is when they use the other door. At least if they go through the door you held open for them, they're acknowledging your existence.

themvcc · 10 days

I hate when people hold the door for me and I am 15 feets away - Give me the eye when I walk slow. I can open my own doors

sh2248 · 10 days

You guys make a great point and I agree with you. However I think you shouldn't judge all people who don't say thank you. There are some that are painfully shy and immediately regret not saying thank you

tijoy · 10 days

i once got called a sexist pig for holding a door open for a woman....she should have gone through before she called me that, my shoe lace became untied on the other side of the door.

imshane14 · 10 days

I'm in Canada, where we apologize if we realize we DIDN'T hold the door open for someone...

pineapple4all · 10 days

In my country we don't say thank you if someone is holding the doors. I don't know why but that's just the way it is.

ws6pilot · 10 days

My little sister held the door for everyone when she was little. I think about five out of ten-thousand people said thanks.

artisticchipmunk · 10 days

I literally thought this exact thing today

rowanwashere · 10 days

Every fucking day of my life. I work with the public, which as made my tolerance with people gone. The fact that most people have little to no manners now a day is just repulsive.

Funktapus · 10 days

I don't always say 'thank you' nor do I expect one every time I hold a door. You made a nice gesture, but don't get angry when somebody doesn't also make a nice gesture.

codyjoe · 10 days

what I have noticed at college is most women/girls expect it pretty much and if you don't hold the door open for them they give you a disgusted look.

esuen · 10 days

I had something worse happen to me awhile ago and I resent it to this day. When I held the door open for someone, the person said in a very douchey manner "You're welcome." Pissed me off greatly.

l3m0n3at3r · 10 days

I always say thank you. I've been stuck as "that girl" keeping the door open for like 5 minutes and I feel exactly like that when people don't say thank you or even acknowledge me.

bluetux · 10 days

this is like an episode of seinfeld waiting to be written

EOMIS · 10 days

When I hold the door open for someone, I demand payment.

TlFF · 10 days

B-but... It's impossible to say thank you, I'm mute. :(

StopTop · 10 days

Greatest. Gif. Ever.

dangoodspeed · 10 days

When someone looks like they could use a little exercise, I hold the door open for them when they're 50' away. Just doing my part.

BardoStatic · 10 days

I work at a semi-cruddy pizza place. I feel the same way when I say "Hey, how are you?" and a customer replies "I'll have a #3."

NewbieWTF · 10 days

I find it annoying when people go too far out of their way to hold a door open for me. I mean, i'm capable of opening a door myself...

I still say thanks though.

tee_jay · 10 days

I always try to say thank you unless I'm not paying attention but seriously, the point of doing something nice shouldn't be to get something in return, even if it isn't much and is totally inconsiderate not to thank the person.

etari · 10 days

This reminds me of when me of when my (at the time) 7 year old daughter used to get mad if I did't say "God Bless You" every single time she sneezed.

iLashOut · 10 days

Does a brief nod count?

brandoniusly · 10 days

All time favorite gif. Has now become my FB cover picture.

kontra5 · 10 days

Someone being grateful is something you should never expect and only hope for.

Dancing_monkey · 10 days

Then don't hold open anymore doors. Want a dollar for not getting pee on the seat?

cuzshesmyruca · 10 days

I hold the door open, and if they say thank you or not I'll make a remark along the lines of, "Doesn't happen too often anymore, does it?" It's just if they say thank you I say you're welcome first. If they don't I say it snarky and bitchy like.

Kithsander · 10 days

My aunt ( in her 60's ) once held the door open for a man in a wheelchair who was behind her as they approached the entrance to a grocery store. He immediately starts barking at her that just because he's in said chair that he doesn't need people's sympathy. My aunt immediately quips back, "My mother raised me to hold the door open for someone behind you. If you want me to shut it in your face, that's fine with me." tldr: Guy in wheelchair gets crappy with aunt. Aunt gets crappy back.

snipsnip · 10 days

It's a nice thing to hold open doors. Know this and you won't need people to thank you to feel good.

madumimike · 10 days

why do people feel entitled for a thank you afterwards? shouldn't being nice and doing the right thing be selfless and gratifying enough?`

GIMME_BANANA · 10 days

Why does everyone have a problem with this? It's not selfish, it's simple good manners...Like saying "please" when asking for something. No need to praise the person and hold on a pedestal, but at least acknowledge with a smile, or a polite nod?

edit: if you down vote, at least explain why? tell me off and show me why you think it's downvote worthy?

khutchins10 · 10 days

I haven't read all of the comments, but it seems as though the consensus is that thank you's are not mandatory. In many cultures, including Chinese, people simply don't say thank you. It's all in the eyes.

audreyshake · 9 days

I hate it when people open doors for me—and no, I'm not talking about giving a door a little nudge so it's not swinging shut as I reach it or, you know, opening a door for me when I'm carrying an armful of groceries and you're actually doing me a favor—the kind of door-opening where someone is holding the door and staring at me expectantly for several seconds. It doesn't matter that you think it's polite: To me, it's uncomfortable, unappreciated, and completely unhelpful.

When confronted with a door-opener, I used to stop short and politely ask the person not to hold the door—often a simple, “No thanks—go on!” complete with grin, but the person would always insist. Thanks to a previous thread on this topic, I realized how important gratitude or even tacit acknowledgement is to door-holders. Now, whenever a stranger unnecessarily opens a door for me, I refuse to acknowledge him at all. My hope is that my general rudeness and utter lack of appreciation will anger people like you enough that you'll stop holding doors open for me when I'm perfectly capable of doing it myself.

Edit: In all other ways, I'm a polite, grateful person. I thank store clerks, tip well, and I always clean up after myself.

Spanky1987 · 10 days

Just say "you're welcome" either way. The reaction is usually pretty funny.

80sKid · 10 days

If you are holding the door open for someone expecting a thank you, you are doing it for the wrong reasons.....just saying

Usenetking · 10 days

I honestly don't mind when they don't say anything, but someone actually had the nerve to say no thank you and took the other door. I had no words.

Butter_Contest · 10 days

It's amazing to me that maybe one other person in here has ever thought "that was rude" after holding a door for someone who couldn't be bothered with a single word. And someone actually referred to it as "tripping over themselves to thank you." Yeah, uttering a word is rough.

high_places · 10 days

I think this can also be applied to drivers who don't wave after you do something nice for them... I'm looking at you Asians.

Wicksk · 10 days

Walking into a gas station with a friend I held the door for someone who did not even acknowledge me.. As if the door magically opened. Thank you for listening reddit.

haloquent · 10 days

you are what is wrong with society

Magnieto · 10 days

If you can't be bothered to gurgle forth a one syllable, "Thanks," after someone holds the door for your, then feel free to die in a fucking tornado of fire.

Actually, I should amend that. What I would like is for you to get on a plane and fly somewhere mountainous. Then, I want that plane to crash in to one of those mountains, but not just any. No, on this particular mountain, there is a scientific bio-weapons research facility operating in the dark and far from prying eyes, creating deadly spider robots that specialize in slow, brutal deaths of their enemies.

the experiment goes wrong and the spider-bots/nightmare machines break loose, killing everyone in the facility... then your fucking plane crashes there with everyone miraculously alive. Then, you and your friends/fellow passengers are all picked off one by one over the course of the following days with the only thing to comfort you at night being the agonizing screams of those who fell in to the grasp of those monstrosities... until you finally your fear overtakes you and you fling yourself from the mountain in lieu of being taken by the spider bots.

TL;DR: Fuck off if you can't be bothered to say, "Thanks."

funny

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