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[–]sj070707 3 points4 points ago

Are they cool with it or are they sure that you'll grow out of it someday and see the light?

[–]rjwax13[S] 1 point2 points ago

They kind of felt like it was a phase for the first year after I told them. Now they see that it's not, they're still cool with it. My parents are awesome.

[–]Naruen 2 points3 points ago

Are you sure they're not thinking, "Thank the Lord he's not gay!"?

[–]rjwax13[S] 1 point2 points ago

Haha I'm sure the thought has come up a few times.

[–]NukeGently 2 points3 points ago

My mother is cool with my lack of faith too. But I feel that not to be concerned about the many other people who are actively harmed by religions would be selfish.

[–]rjwax13[S] 1 point2 points ago

That's awesome your mom is tolerant of your belief, and I agree, it's a damn shame people have suffered and still suffer because of an ideology

[–]Evildeadpunk 1 point2 points ago

My mother dragged me and my siblings through the ringer when we were children as she tried to figure out which one suited her best. Now she just wants us to be good children. I think at least 3 of the 5 of her children are staunch atheists. The awkward part is that I also have "Country Christian Conservatives" and Catholics in my extended family (Her brother's family and her sister's family, respectively.) And they're cool with it too.

[–]rjwax13[S] 1 point2 points ago

I know the feeling. I live in southern VA and all my extended family is country, conservative, and Catholic. That's great they're supportive of you

[–]hargleblargle 1 point2 points ago

Whose*

In answering the question, my mother is very accepting of my lack of faith. My father blames himself for "not being a good spiritual guide."

[–]rjwax13[S] 0 points1 point ago

I feel like that's a pretty common problem. One parent accepts the decision (usually the dad) and one parent feels as though they failed you somehow (usually the mom). It's interesting the reactions were reversed in your case

[–]hargleblargle 1 point2 points ago

Well, my mom's been what you might call a "doubting Christian" for a long time now. She doesn't go to church, but still invokes God in times of need. My dad, on the other hand, is a preacher's kid who recently had his faith strengthened by a few hallucinatory experiences that occurred during recovery from a traumatic brain injury. Of course, the first person I was able to tell in confidence about being an atheist was my brother. It helped that he had been thoroughly disillusioned by two-year stay at a Christian university. Now he and I sit around in his apartment and laugh at stuff we find on r/atheism.

[–]iMalevolence 1 point2 points ago

My mother wishes I would 'see the light' as she has requested that I go to church (though she doesn't...). Other than that, she seems mostly okay with it. We don't talk about it often, but I think she knows that I'm a good kid/young adult/man and that's all that matters.

My dad, on the other hand, pretty much refuses to talk about his beliefs. I don't even know if he's an atheist or religious or what. Every time my mother and I have talked about it, he keeps his mouth shut. If I ask him, he just looks at my mother and doesn't say a word. I feel like he'd be atheist, but I can't actually label him as anything. Him and I are just so much alike though...

[–]rjwax13[S] 1 point2 points ago

Your mom sounds like a smart woman. I feel that Jesus would prefer a good atheist over a hateful Christian. It's good she feels this way too

[–]iMalevolence 1 point2 points ago

Indeed. I have a ton of respect for them, though sometimes I get a little flustered when they request that I don't partake in discussions concerning religion when I'm with extended family. I know it's for the better so I'm not ostracized or something because I know most of my family is religious, but I'd like to express myself.

I've always assumed that if a god existed, morality would be the deciding factor, not how he was worshiped. Though I don't believe in a god, I believe in doing what's right and I can honestly attribute that to my parents and how they raised me. So even if they were terrible fundies and kicked me out after finding out I was an atheist, I would still love them simply for helping me develop a good sense of right and wrong because it's needed to better the lives of everyone.

[–]rjwax13[S] 1 point2 points ago

Exactly. In regards to morality, who's the better person, a man who only does the right thing because he's scared of burning forever, or a man who knows his good deed will have no ultimate reward, but he does it anyway, just because it's the right thing to do.