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[–]Dip_the_Dog 349 points350 points ago

So let me get this straight, in addition to having a PhD in Astrophysics and Theology you are:

An ex-Muslim currently living in Sweden

Who recently "found this at my local book store", a Swedish Borders store that specialises in english books I take it?

But I shouldn't be mean because you just found out that your boyfriend is a creationist. A common problem in Sweden I hear.

[–]NewToThisShitYo 84 points85 points ago

/r/atheism troll.

People on /r/atheism just love upvoting stupid things like that.

If a friend in real life told me the same story i'd tell them to stop being such a dickhead.

[–]agsdhj 0 points1 point ago

/r/atheism certainly seems to be filled with people who dislike /r/atheism these days.

[–]T-rex_with_a_gun 8 points9 points ago

or it could be the fact /r/atheism is front page by default, and often times is a circle jerk for "lol look guys, theists! lol lol lol"

[–]superapplekid 28 points29 points ago

Noticed you commented on a lot of OPs threads with this, and you get upvoted pretty well for it. Perhaps you two are working together in the greatest karma caper ever?

I kind of want to believe that because it would be so good.

[–]mbd34 19 points20 points ago

[–]Dip_the_Dog 5 points6 points ago

Haha no just the two that I saw on the front page of r/atheism (which is why I started looking at the users history in the first place). I like the way you think though, trust nobody! :)

[–]FravasTheBard 1 point2 points ago

/r/KarmaConspiracy is going to hear about this!

[–]HappyStance 19 points20 points ago

[–]libertariantexan 2 points3 points ago

Well, you managed to make a creepy 2 frame image into an even creepier gif. THOSE EYES, MAN.

[–]HappyStance 13 points14 points ago

I'm afraid I can't take credit for it. I love this gif but I didn't make it.

[–]painordelight 12 points13 points ago

[–]c0up0n 6 points7 points ago

It is also great that it is just a fucking reaction gif. for a community that likes to associate itself with great minds of science, they sure love to upvote the lowest of the low.

[–]usnavygonewild 6 points7 points ago

Meh, I don't care so much. I've had people I've dated turn around and drop Creationist or hyper-conservative views on me so this reaction gif paired with the title made me laugh pretty freaking jovially. So really, the post wasn't a bad one, OP is just a liar.

[–]smartzie 4 points5 points ago

Pretty much how I felt. I don't care if that's what actually happened, I thought the joke was funny. I kind of had the same reaction when I was a dating a guy and he told me he'd never seen Star Wars because he didn't like Sci-Fi stuff.....actually, I think I freaked out more.

[–]YOU_ARE_A_FUCK 3 points4 points ago

Nothing is true, everything is permitted.

[–]BioSim00 414 points415 points ago

This is how girls react when I tell them I'm not a Creationist. I live in the bible belt.

[–]fentooooon 104 points105 points ago

I live in the bible belt too. There is one guy my age who isn't afraid to tell people he's an atheist (unlike me). I was with a big group of friends and they start talking about the atheist saying things like they couldn't believe he's an atheist and that he is insane. One of the guys in the big group I was hanging out with said, "The one thing I cannot tolerate is an atheist". Everyone immediately agreed with him. I just wanted to scream, "AM I THE ONLY ONE HERE THAT DOESN'T BELIEVE IN MAGIC?!"

[–]praxe 66 points67 points ago

You should have. People need to speak up against intolerance bigotry.

[–]Wizywig 1 point2 points ago

its hard to be a black man in the middle of a KKK meeting.

[–]recursive_redundancy 39 points40 points ago

I'd have asked how they can accept Nazis. Also you need to grow a backbone. Stand up and say no.

[–]Dascandy 1 point2 points ago

That's a pretty striking similarity to be honest.

[–]Danno1850 1 point2 points ago

Also, get better friends.

[–]Lily_Claws 7 points8 points ago

and risk being beaten up or whatever?

he might better do so if the atheist there too, but as it seems he wasn't in that particular situation. there's little to be won if it's one vs a big group which seemingly is a big part of your social life.

[–]fentooooon 10 points11 points ago

The guy who is my age who is an out of the closet atheist has almost no friends for mainly this reason. We usually stay away from talking about religion as much as we can. Hopefully in some of the upcoming decades these people will open their eyes more. Social life plays a big role when it comes to trying to discuss these things with others.

[–]_lnostdal_ 5 points6 points ago

Who needs enemies with friends like yours.

[–]Concussi0n 19 points20 points ago

That's why I keep telling people america fucking sucks ass.

Sure, land of oportunity blah blah blah, but there if you tell people you're an atheist in a religious area you can lose all your friends or even be beat up.

Not to mention gays can't get married, weed isn't decriminilized, prostitution is still illegal, scientology etc etc

In portugal, 80% is christian, maybe more, I'm still friends with people who are religious and they are aware that I'm an atheist and nobody gives a fuck. But in america people will go out of their way to be bigots.

USA #1 my fucking ass. Your country sucks people, doesn't matter how rich is it. Deal with it.

[–]lemonadegame 6 points7 points ago

I can verify USA sucks. Healthcare only is JUST catching up with the 21st century. Your Republicans are fucking psychos I might add

[–]archaeopter 2 points3 points ago

You need to study up on Iowa. Gays can get married here, no one gives a rat's ass if you say you're an atheist in most of the state, and Des Moines is one of the most progressive cities in the country with an awesome downtown. Get educated: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLZZ6JD0g9Y

[–]rauchnrawl 1 point2 points ago

I agree with this statement.

[–]Roast_A_Botch 1 point2 points ago

I understand your point. The problem is that nothing that's good in America is fun to talk about on the internet. You only hear the bad, after years of that you start to believe it's all bad. If I looked up every negative story on Portugal and judged it that way it wouldn't sound good either. With that said there is a lot wrong with my country and we are no longer number one in a lot of areas. I'm glad I wasn't born poor in Somalia or a radical Muslim country where I would be tortured and killed for being an atheist though.

[–]7thFloorDown 2 points3 points ago

By your logic, everything and everyone must suck ass.

[–]Zeugirdor994 2 points3 points ago

But everything and everyone does suck ass

[–]Bazilx 1 point2 points ago

Seriously you should tell them, if they really do like you then it will make them question their irrational dislike of atheists and if they don't like you then why do you want to be their friend? And besides, you're not really being their friend if you are lying about who you are in the first place, right now they don't really like you, you are just pretending to be something they do like.

[–]recursive_redundancy 2 points3 points ago

and risk being beaten up

wait, this is the USA, right? I always thought those guys go for a nice shootout instead of beating themselves up.

Also social life is totally overrated.

[–]havesometea1 2 points3 points ago

I was a rare out Atheist in the deep south. I never got beat up for it.

[–]themcp 1 point2 points ago

Yes, and risk being beat up or whatever. That's what the backbone is for.

[–]Nirgilis 2 points3 points ago

That's a hate crime so let them do it.

[–]Irukashe 7 points8 points ago

LET THEM LYNCH YOU! For science.

[–]rauchnrawl 2 points3 points ago

Why are you friends with such pieces of shit?

[–]fentooooon 1 point2 points ago

We usually stay away from religious conversations as much as possible. The particular guy who said the ridiculous comment regarding how he could not tolerate atheism is not in my close group of friends.

[–]Telemachussneezed 1 point2 points ago

County school system?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points ago

I saw a girl with a Darwin button on her sweater yesterday. I really should have high-fived her or something, or at least made a SAP macro about it, but sometimes you just don't have the chutzpah to stand out.

[–]Roast_A_Botch 2 points3 points ago

Sometimes you got to go for it.

[–]Telemachussneezed 7 points8 points ago

Stop trying to pick up chicks in Lynchburg.

Former Tennesseean - worst my friends/chicks ever did was repeatedly get pissed at me for saying "god damn".

You should get out. Life's so much better out of the south.

[–]BioSim00 1 point2 points ago

I plan on moving out when I finish school and can lock down a decent job somewhere. I dream of living in Portland or Seattle. I'd take hipsters over fundies any day haha.

[–]Telemachussneezed 1 point2 points ago

A close friend made the move from Bristol, VA to Portland just under a year ago.

He says it's the best choice he ever made. He moved out there blind with no job. I'd advise you do the same...waiting for a gig to be locked down without already being in the region you want to be is tough.

[–]Neurotikitty 1 point2 points ago

Or come deeper south to Florida. Not North FL but Tampa and below. A handful of religious people, a good chunk of secular people. It's a very accepting environment for all.

[–]ethertrace 128 points129 points ago

I'm so sorry. Nobody deserves to be treated like a monster for being rational.

[–]Deracination 37 points38 points ago

You're probably seeing these exact same two sentences in reverse, only talking about the guy whose girlfriend freaked the fuck out when he told her what he believed.

[–]SweetNeo85 12 points13 points ago

Probably true. Doesn't make them both valid.

Hurr durr they say the same thing can't you see?

Yeah? It's not about their opinion, or ours. It's about reality; what checks out, and what doesn't.

[–]Deracination 3 points4 points ago

Yes. Which is why we should be focusing in the legitimacy of these and not our emotional reactions.

[–]SweetNeo85 1 point2 points ago

The legitimacy of what? Because what we're discussing here is, in fact, emotional reactions.

[–]Deracination 1 point2 points ago

The legitimacy of creationism versus.....science. My point this entire time is that our emotional response is nothing unique and does not provide anything useful or convincing.

[–]kalimashookdeday 1 point2 points ago

And people deserve to be treated like a monster for simply believing in god? What the fuck is wrong with you?

[–]SanduskyDaycare 78 points79 points ago

Dude I know that feel. I had a girl who told me how repulsive our geology teacher was for explaining how old the Earth is. Bitch thinks the world was created like a God damn Disney cartoon. This is why we need to extort a new version of Christianity to the South where God drives a Jeep Wrangler, drinks Jim Beam, and says nigger in public. Throw in a deep and defined hate for gays and the poor and you'd have yourself the religious wet dream of all the tard "Republicans" in the South. Downvote me to hell. Jews did 9/11, JFK killed by Elvis.

[–]Atario 11 points12 points ago

I think we should get on better terms. Start calling him by his first name. What was it? Yahweh? Yeah, good ol' Y-dawg. I wonder what The Weighmeister is up to right about now?

[–]ArchSchnitz 5 points6 points ago

Weighmeister. That combines "shit people don't know about their god," "blasphemy," and "implied German/Nazi connection" perfectly. You, sir, are a Sir.

[–]cypherpunks 8 points9 points ago

Truthfully, when using it as a proper name, it's just as grammatically correct to capitalize God, as Yahweh, as John. The confusing thing is that the name has a separate meaning as a a common noun.

But the same can be said for common names like Smith, Forest, Lake, Lane, Cotter, etc. Are we talking about a man or the Isle of Man? (Or the small town in southwest Virginia?)

[–]Nyrb 22 points23 points ago

Well I mean, we capitalize Harry Potter and he's not real either.

[–]Annie225 34 points35 points ago

Harry Potter's not what!?

[–]maushu 12 points13 points ago

BURN THE UNBELIEVER!

[–]Annie225 4 points5 points ago

Tarantallegra!!

[–]RadioGuy2k 14 points15 points ago

You son of a bitch.

[–]shabutie123 13 points14 points ago

This is why I don't say "I don't believe in God." I say "I don't believe in any gods" just so I can get away with not capitalizing it. It bugs the hell out of fundies.

[–]cypherpunks 8 points9 points ago

And it makes the point that there are plenty of gods that they don't believe in, too. Well done, and I'll remember to do the same!

You ought to make a top-level self post with the suggestion.

[–]flying-sheep 5 points6 points ago

I live in Germany where we capitalize every noun. I decided to make one exception.

[–]MedSchoolHopeful 3 points4 points ago

And I ain't even Jewish.

[–]GravityOfDSituation 3 points4 points ago

Upvote for Best New Religious Idea goes to...

SanduskyDaycare!!!!!

Upvote for 1st name to make me ashamed to giggle...

SanduskyDaycare!!!!!

[–]DruePhoenix 2 points3 points ago

Do you live in the city? Pretty much every decent sized city in NC(asides from Fayetteville) is far more learned and liberal than the "country." It could be worse further south into the bible belt, of course.

[–]Itziclinic 1 point2 points ago

In the words of my girlfriend, "Aaand, it's gone."

[–]kionay 1 point2 points ago

[–]JayHay23 1 point2 points ago

I know that feel bro...

[–]squouse 1 point2 points ago

Now kiss.

[–]libertariantexan 1 point2 points ago

Me too man, me too.

[–]ghostfox1_gfaqs 1 point2 points ago

I know that feel. So I came to PA to get away from it. And it turns out there are still fundies here. :/ Mind you, eastern PA, near Philadelphia. Could always be worse man.

[–]ricultix 1 point2 points ago

My South Carolinian heart goes out to your, my dear comrade.

[–]boredtodeath2 106 points107 points ago

I'm gay, and I just found out the guy I've been sleeping with is pentecostal. Real crazy shit.

[–]2joker1 28 points29 points ago

dude wat? those people are so crazy they don't celebrate Xmas. but there is a gay one? im beyond confused.

im gay too! blood bothers!!!!!

[–]redslate 172 points173 points ago

That's how you get AIDS :(

[–]2joker1 50 points51 points ago

O_O

i had not thought of that...

[–]boredtodeath2 6 points7 points ago

Yeah, we haven't really discussed it but I think he's a real fundie.

[–]2joker1 14 points15 points ago

but... he's gay(or bi idk?)... i just... that confounds me.

edit: i understand that lots of LGBT people are religious, that confounds me too.

[–]trumpetvine 26 points27 points ago

LGBT people aren't that different from straight people, they can be logically impaired too. What confounds me is that there are a lot of women who are religious, because there are more woman-hating verses on the first page of the bible than there are gay-hating verses in the entire book.

[–]CheeseMonkiesAttack 16 points17 points ago

I think that has more to do with the community. I used to go to church for recipes, knitting, needlepoint and a few other things that are hard to find other friends to do. I find that the conversation very rarely has anything to do with God other than maybe a brief prayer at the beginning or end. I go to a relatively chill church though, and methodism isn't known so much for it's fire and brimstone.

I also like the teas and an excuse to wear ridiculous hats.

[–]Jeroknite 9 points10 points ago

LGBT people aren't that different from straight people

With a slight modification, that sums up my views of people.

X people aren't that different from other people

I wish more people understood that.

[–]absentbird 1 point2 points ago

When you think about it the only difference between any two people is a fraction of a percent of our DNA and the time and place of their birth. Those three things. That is it.

We are all products of our circumstances.

[–]2joker1 1 point2 points ago

yes i agree. i guess i am just confused that anyone can believe that claptrap

[–]arc_angle 16 points17 points ago

Pentecostals celebrate Christmas. You're probably thinking of Jehovah's Witnesses.

[–]2joker1 2 points3 points ago

maybe the ones i know are just a particular brand of crazy. they dont celebrate christmas or easter "because jesus should be celebrated everyday equally.

[–]arc_angle 13 points14 points ago

So their kids get presents and Easter eggs everyday of the year? Fuckin' awesome!

[–]iEatBluePlayDoh 4 points5 points ago

"

[–]YourNipsWillBeMine 4 points5 points ago

My fathers a Pentecostal pastor, we celebrated Christmas... although he did try and tell us we shouldn't... But that's just because we wanted expensive Christmas presents >.>

[–]jlking3 1 point2 points ago

One year, my dad said we were going to exchange presents not on Christmas, but on Epiphany (January 6). I thought at the time it was cool and intensely spiritual.

Turns out he just wanted to take advantage of after-Christmas sales.

[–]aequitas3 2 points3 points ago

blood bothers HEMOPHOBES!

[–]2joker1 2 points3 points ago

do you happen to speak latin,as i do? or do you just like the boondock saints?

[–]aequitas3 1 point2 points ago

I used to be able to say where are my underpants, but other than that, I just know it means justice/equality. Just because im from Boston doesn't mean I haven't had this tag since before Boondock Saints came around!

[–]2joker1 1 point2 points ago

fair enough

[–]heffel77 1 point2 points ago

nowkiss.jpg

[–]sawyoutobits 1 point2 points ago

I am also gay, and it makes me sad that with straight people it's "this person I'm dating" and with gays it's "this person I'm sleeping with." Monogamy is rare in the gay community...sigh

[–]YouHaveShitTaste 10 points11 points ago

There's nothing inherently better about monogamy, nothing to be sad about

[–]sawyoutobits 3 points4 points ago

When you're in a community that is high risk for HIV, there most certainly is. The very reason we are at high risk for it is because of all the non-stop fucking. Also I simply wouldn't want to share someone I love with a different person every week.

[–]flying-sheep 1 point2 points ago

Jup, but I think he refers to the meeting places of gay communities being much less about dating and more about plain sex.

[–]boredtodeath2 5 points6 points ago

I want a relationship, just can't find one. He's also the only person I've slept with this year.haha

[–]best_policy 5 points6 points ago

It really isn't. I know more gay couples than I know promiscuous gay people. It could depend on where you live. The more society accepts gay people, the more similar their lives are to straight people.

Also, there isn't anything wrong with not wanting to be monogamous.

[–]sunnyblossom 18 points19 points ago

What is this from? Source?!

[–]here4aprpose 15 points16 points ago

Source: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bLizYKZZcos Just Jennifer acting. Is Jennifer dating a creationist? http://i.imgur.com/Q62iO.gif

[–]LonLonLove 10 points11 points ago

You're Jennifer Lawrence?!?!?!?!?

[–]mudmaster 45 points46 points ago

I'd tell him to go create me a sandwich.

[–]PLJNS 2 points3 points ago

First he'd have to invent the universe.

Source: Carl Sagan's Cosmic Cookbook

[–]roccanet 12 points13 points ago

there must be something akin to gaydar for fundies.....

[–]veganatheist 29 points30 points ago

Praydar.

[–]bttf2at29 1 point2 points ago

I could definitely see this term being used as a observation on someone's religion, and even an observation of their general non-rational stance

[–]Annie225 1 point2 points ago

That's awesome.

[–]Tr2v 27 points28 points ago

Consider yourself lucky. You can get out now before you get in too deep.

[–]UberDoogee1 41 points42 points ago

Or rather before HE gets in too deep.

YOWZAH!

[–]hiccupstix 6 points7 points ago

Why? We don't know anything about this guy. What if he's been silently skeptical for years, and just hasn't been exposed to an environment or social circle wherein expressing those thoughts are acceptable? Let's not write every Christian off when we don't know their circumstances. An approachable and non-judgmental atheist could be the influence they've been looking for.

[–]Thelastunicorn1 1 point2 points ago

That's something a friend is for, not a lover. You shouldn't go into a relationship hoping to change somebody, that's just facts.

[–]Squirrelson 1 point2 points ago

Or you can have a mature discussion about your beliefs and feelings rather than judging someone on one part of them. I wish I lived in your world where people are so easily summed up by one thing.

[–]offToGermany -1 points0 points ago

That's what she said

[–]Dimestoresaint 27 points28 points ago

I don't see why that is big deal....

[–]Thelastunicorn1 8 points9 points ago

They are completely writing off science, it may completely clash with OPs beliefs, and therefore is unnattractive.

[–]royalplot 3 points4 points ago

Also children. Think of them.

I don't want to BS mine like my parents did to me.

[–]Thelastunicorn1 2 points3 points ago

That's true as well, there definitely is nothing bigoted about wanting someone who shares your beliefs.

[–]fifteencat 2 points3 points ago

Like half the population in the US believes in creation. Who would freak out because they discovered someone thinks like most everybody else?

I'm an atheist married to a Christian. She's truly one of the best human beings I know.

[–]silverfennec 6 points7 points ago

Exactly. My boyfriend is a Christian. He goes to church twice almost every week. We don't have problems with each others' beliefs because we respect each other. We even have friendly debates about it sometimes.

Some people just like to overreact about things like this.

[–]maynardftw 1 point2 points ago

You're confusing 'Christian' with 'Creationist'.

[–]vilmon 3 points4 points ago

What?! A reasonable post about atheists and people of faith getting along?!? Downvote this blasphemy!

[–]psychroclasm 3 points4 points ago

So, a bit unrelated: What's this .gif from?

[–]Nexaz 3 points4 points ago

Don't know but it is Jennifer Lawrence.

[–]psychroclasm 2 points3 points ago

I was hoping that it was.

[–]99_Chode_Balloons 1 point2 points ago

Jennifer Lawrence gives me the biggest boner ever.

[–]animalcub 13 points14 points ago

Watch cosmos with him. Have a discussion that doesn't get heated. Let the facts of reality sink in. Weeks later say let's watch an atheist Christian debate. Choose hitchens vs anyone. Profit.

[–]atomic_power 32 points33 points ago

As someone with a large number of creationist aquaintences, this will not work. Instead, they will just dig in even harder, and start giving you books by Christian writers that are complete bullshit.

Recommend you simply drop the topic, and drop the guy.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points ago

and start giving you books by Christian writers that are complete bullshit.

Yup.

[–]Felger 8 points9 points ago

This is not always necessary. It really depends on the guy in question. If he's open to discussion and willing to admit he's wrong (I was, and I did), then it will not end fruitlessly.

[–]ivosaurus 2 points3 points ago

No harm in trying, though?

I mean sure, overnight reversal of thinking is definitely a rare thing, but planting that seed is what it's about.

[–]Neurotikitty 2 points3 points ago

I don't think it's fair to try and "re-educate" him. I think she should simply talk about where his faith comes from and why, and why she believes differently. If he chooses to learn more about science, that's excellent. But making him watch shows and debates in hopes that he changes his mind seems just as obnoxious as any other form of evangelism. Sure, you're not telling him he is going to hell, but he's going to assume you think he's a child who can't think for himself. Not a good way to treat your partner.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points ago

Cosmos is actually a little hard to follow. It was made for a different audience, and audience that doesn't mine Carl Sagan giving his "facial" face for minutes at a time, as science shoots its load all over his face in his spaceship of the imagination. Wait for the reboot. A million dollars goes a lot further today than it did back then, regardless of inflation, we have gotten so good at production and production has become so cheap that the reboot should be the go-to series to watch with theists.

[–]Pertinacious 11 points12 points ago

You have my condolences.

[–]Sploit1 26 points27 points ago

[–]soulking 7 points8 points ago

condolence fives will never be a thing

[–]k-volare 16 points17 points ago

[–]Jackstallion1 1 point2 points ago

And my axe.

[–]flocosix 3 points4 points ago

I usually ask about this the first time I meet with someone. If they tell me they're religious, I know what to expect.

[–]sportygoose 8 points9 points ago

I didn't think that that would automatically make someone a bad person.

[–]MapleSyrupIsAwesome 3 points4 points ago

Who cares if they are a bad person or not? The question is if you feel you can have a healthy relationship with that person.

[–]sportygoose 1 point2 points ago

I think you should care if they are a bad person or not... And I don't think that someone's faith should be the determining factor in whether you can date them or not. It's just pretty shallow in my opinion.

[–]RoyallyTenenbaumed 3 points4 points ago

Abandon ship!

[–]heffel77 16 points17 points ago

Well, as the "open-minded, rational one" maybe you can let him have his beliefs too. Does that really negate the things that you find attractive? If it does, then you are no better than the people you claim are idiots. Unless he had a deep spiritual experience, he should see through the b/s given time. If he did have an experience, isn't it worth seeing what it was? Maybe you can connect on a deeper level.

[–]JakOswald 20 points21 points ago

I really feel for folks who want to see past it, but if you look down the road it can still be a big problem. There was a Catholic girl that I had been dating and she was adamant that if we had children they would be raised Catholic (I'm an atheist). If it's something that you can avoid as a fight in the future and decide in advance that religion won't be pushed, that's one thing. But if the partner wants their beliefs to be foisted onto the next generation, save yourself the headache and find someone else that has a more compatible world-view.

[–]DangerToDangers 5 points6 points ago

If OP just found out that the guy is creationist then she doesn't know him that well. It happens a lot of the time. You meet someone who is physically attractive, you date a bit, and then you find out you have nothing in common.

Truth is that if someone is a creationist and you are an atheist you are going to have very little in common as for world views. I see that shit in okcupid all the time. If they are religious my compatibility with them won't be higher than 60%. If they are creationists or fundies then it's going to drop way lower. We could still be friends, but we would never be able to have a meaningful relationship.

[–]joecan 4 points5 points ago

If she was dating someone who was convinced 2 + 2 = 3,457 I'd think it would be very unlikely that someone would suggest she is close minded because she has a problem with his opinions on basic math.

[–]hiccupstix 3 points4 points ago

This is what I don't understand. When did atheism become justification to discriminate and write off others?

[–]HIFW_GIFs_React_ 7 points8 points ago

[–]sublbc 1 point2 points ago

DTB!!!!!!

[–]freddytrash 1 point2 points ago

My ex said he "wasn't into religion" and turned out to be a youth pastor for a southern baptist church.

[–]KnuckleDraggingGamer 1 point2 points ago

So...I am guessing you are less than thrilled then.

And its a pleasure to meet you, Ms. Jennifer Lawrence. :)

[–]Sta-au 1 point2 points ago

I'm the only one that noticed the grease smear as she slid down the wall aren't I?

[–]Mugros 1 point2 points ago

I once dated a girl I was mildly interested in. I knew she was in some kind of strange branch of the church, but it was never a problem. Once we had a talk about religion, creationism and atheism IIRC. A little bit later she was heading for her home country for a couple of weeks. She told me she had to give me something before she leaves and I shouldn't open it before she is gone. Turns out it were two books from some hardcore creationist and there was a note inside that I can contact some guy if I had any questions or want to talk about it. I guess he was some kind of minister.

End of story, I hate being lectured by religious ppl and stopped dating immediately.

[–]Electroverted 1 point2 points ago

In other news, Jennifer Lawrence has a magnificent chest.

[–]Soldus 1 point2 points ago

+1 for Jennifer Lawrence

[–]fouryearlurker 1 point2 points ago

When my boyfriend first told me he was a Creationist, it was at an Evolution exhibit in a local science museum. He had spent all day smiling at my delight in each exhibit, genuinely interested in discussing what obviously brought me a great deal of satisfaction. We had gone on and on about Darwin, mutations, genetic drift, and so on. When we reached the Paleozoic exhibit, surrounded by artistic renderings of invertebrate animal phyla, I made some silly joke about a human bias toward vertebrates. He kissed my hand and told me he believed the Earth was 6,000 years old. Once I realized he was serious, I was shocked. I opened my mouth to present all the logically arranged arguments that I knew so well, but recalling the entire day it occurred to me that he hadn't arrived at this belief without the knowledge of any of these arguments, facts, or scientific truths. He is an intelligent, logical man who has the same information that I do on evolution, yet has arrived at a different conclusion. That's the day I realized most of the theist/atheist related drama I had seen was a result of a lack of humility and respect, not knowledge.

[–]CARoth 1 point2 points ago

My boyfriend of 8 months and I are just now finding these things out about each other. I am an atheist, who believes in evolution and the big bang theory....he doesn't.

I may be in trouble here...

[–]skitnerdig 4 points5 points ago

That's why I always ask potential lovers about their religious affiliation. So much better in the long run.

[–]HelterSkeletor 1 point2 points ago

It's 3rd or 4th date material.

I recently went on a date with a girl that is Jewish and totally obsessed with Israel (and to a lesser extent, focused on hating Palestein). She ended up getting a bit clingy so I explained to her that I am an atheist and I don't agree with Israel's position on many numbers of things and that while the majority of people there are not bad people, the government and some of the fundies are fucking crazy at times and I just can't agree with her. She stopped contact quite fast.

[–]skitnerdig 1 point2 points ago

I had a similar problem with a guy I went out with a while back. It was the first time I have ever met his parents even though we had been going out for a while (we met at college and he was from a different town so I had never had a chance to meet them) and his dad was wearing a clerical collar because he was apparently a pastor. Our relationship went considerably downhill after that because I was not going to lie about my atheism to them so when they asked I told the truth, and they did not approve of it.

[–]IPOOPonUCLA 4 points5 points ago

Really dose it matter?

[–]Modpodge22 3 points4 points ago

Did he try to impose his views on you? Yes? dump him. No? There is no problem.

[–]DavidNatan 4 points5 points ago

How I feel every time a girl tells me about her inner spirituality and belief in mysticism, the supernatural, tarot, astral signs etc.

[–]Gnippots 2 points3 points ago

Anyone able to explain the appeal of this post? I don't see it.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points ago

What the fuck is wrong with you. You're just as intolerant as the judgy creationists. People can have a different opinion

[–]HelterSkeletor 3 points4 points ago

Having a relationship with someone with these opinions is a whole other game. It's perfectly fine to be intolerant of worldviews that you don't agree with, especially when you're in a relationship with that person.

[–]orhtograph 1 point2 points ago

So - my tolerant friend, you would fly with a pilot whose opinion is that Newton is just a fad?

[–]majestic7 3 points4 points ago

The creationism vs evolution debate is NOT a matter of opinion, though. One is right and the other is wrong.

[–]Walter_The_Cat 2 points3 points ago

Upvote for that awesome name!

[–]jaepoe 3 points4 points ago

I read HiggyMcBosom at first. But I guess HiggyMcBoson is a close second.

[–]inside_your_face 2 points3 points ago

Why has this post become so popular? This is everything r/atheism shouldn’t be. This subreddit supposedly prides itself on open-mindedness, however assuming this guy is an idiot simply because he is religious is disgusting. I believe a lot of people who make up this subreddit’s demographic are former Christians. How would you like to have been treated like this? To be pushed away because of your beliefs, no matter how respectful you are in practicing them. Show some fucking tolerance to your former selves, honestly, this is why the subreddit is seen as such a fucking joke, because of the small minority of idiot’s upvoting ignorant mindless content like this.

[–]Bitcheslovemaths 4 points5 points ago

If it took you this long to find out, is it really a problem?

[–]APairofDocks 2 points3 points ago

What the fuck do you care? Does that matter, at all? It's not like he told you he believes in raping children.

[–]Eroshan 1 point2 points ago

Let him fuck you while you are on your period, then stone him.

[–]Eurydemus 0 points1 point ago

Why do you care what someone else believes... Just ask why they believe in creationism, then explain your beliefs, and back it up. Then agree to disagree.

[–]ksmcqueen 0 points1 point ago

Seems like a really small-minded, judgemental reaction. The guy was just sharing his personal beliefs and you freak out. It doesn't say here, "The guy I've been seeing tried to convert me to Christianity". For society to work we need to be more accepting of other people.

[–]AtrophiedLabia 1 point2 points ago

A couple of months ago there was a post about a guy who met the girl of his dreams, found out that she was christian, and tried to make it work, but she dumped him because he is an atheist. Everyone here proceeded to freak the fuck out and flew to his defense. Now that the roles are reversed the general consensus is - you should dump him immediately, it will work out better in the long run.

I try so hard with this subreddit...

[–]photoddgrapher 2 points3 points ago

Eh big deal. Agree to disagree. If he's a good person, go for it, if not.. well go find an athiest.

[–]Oxtorius 0 points1 point ago

Why does this shit matter? I'm atheist and my girlfriend is a Creationist. Sometimes it actually leads to a lot of good arguments and conversations. Elsewise it means absolutely nothing in our relationship.

[–]CIRCLEJERK_OPINION 1 point2 points ago

Nope, nope, nope.

[–]inside_your_face 3 points4 points ago

I am the only person here who doesn't see this as an issue? Obviously if these beliefs interfere negetively with the relationship then yeah it's an issue but if they don't and he is a nice guy then I can't see a problem.

[–]faction60 1 point2 points ago

if he doesn't care that you're an atheist then why does it matter

sounds like one way tolerance

[–]fukc_you 1 point2 points ago

I found out my GF is a creationist. I almost left her over it, but then decided we just won't talk about it.

She actually said "I didn't get upset when you told me you believe in evolution."

Idk, thinking about it again upsets me a little.

[–]LegoClaes 16 points17 points ago

"It seem's we've encountered a problem regarding the values we've built our individual lives on, my dear... Let's just never talk about it again, Im sure it'll go away"

[–]dudley-vs-mothy 4 points5 points ago

Indeed. Religion or lack thereof, and kids are the most important things to have in common when it comes to long term relationships. A religious person and an atheist will generally end badly. It may take a year, it may take 20, but eventually it will create a large divide. Same goes for two religious people that follow different religions.

[–]GodStopper90 1 point2 points ago

I guess my mom and dad are one of the few exceptions. So it there is a chance it can work.

[–]TheBlankVerseKit 0 points1 point ago

I'm saving this reaction gif

[–]rifrif 0 points1 point ago

she looks a lot like caroline rhea in this Gif.

[–]eliseyloo 0 points1 point ago

this how i dance to dubstep

[–]Parliamentarian 0 points1 point ago

And how does that make you feel...mmmkay