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[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] 31 points32 points ago

you'd think the upvotes would mean most of us aren't like this, but from what I've seen, a significant majority of gay guys on the internet just kind of...walk away after a little while.

[–]gbr4rmunchkin 13 points14 points ago

yup

a lot fo effort to get them to know you

hour later....oh sorry you're not my type

WHAT???

is this how women feel?

drifting away

[–]Shamwow22PERCEPTRON THE MIGHTY! 15 points16 points ago

lol Yeah, I was talking to a guy for a few days. We saw pictures of each other, he said he liked me and my personality, etc. . .then when he heard I was 5'7", he was like "Oh, some women are taller than you" and completely lost interest. lol

[–]VesperJDR 21 points22 points ago

Strange. Shorter guys are so cuddleable!

[–]TophTheMagicDragon 4 points5 points ago

ARENT THEY!? :D i like dating short guys, but lately i've been getting guys that are about my height or taller(which i don't have a problem with ;p)

[–]name_with_a_y 1 point2 points ago

I'm 5'6. Now I know why I'm single.

[–]thoriorium 5 points6 points ago

As a fellow 5'6"er, trust me; you're better off gay than straight! Some men actually prefer shorter guys. I've yet to witness that quality in a woman.

[–]moriquendo 2 points3 points ago

Many women acquire that quality once you get the money. (Many men too, don't worry.)
Examples: Prince (5'2"), Taylor Lautner (5'7") (ok, he has other things than mere money and fame in his favour), Al Pacino (5'7"), Tom Cruise (5'7"), Daniel Radcliffe (5'5"), and so on.

[–]thoriorium 1 point2 points ago

Daniel Radcliffe is adorable and I'd take him sans money and magic. I also don't consider 5'7" short, but then again I'm rather biased.

[–]moriquendo 0 points1 point ago

I think 5'7" is definitely not short. 5'6" is on the shortish side and 5'5" is already 'properly' short. Then again, height-averages vary. In Scandinavian countries it's 5'11" and in the US it's 5'9" (acc. t. Wikipedia). Also, some people that are not very tall don't look short because they carry themselves in a way that doesn't make you feel as if they were. And, finally, adorableness cancels out so many things, doesn't it?

[–]name_with_a_y 1 point2 points ago

Thanks. :) I've been in need of a little cheering up about other things, but this made me smile for some reason.

[–]thoriorium 6 points7 points ago

http://i.imgur.com/YyC7S.gif

[–]name_with_a_y 2 points3 points ago

And I just melted.

[–]Shamwow22PERCEPTRON THE MIGHTY! 0 points1 point ago

I prefer shorter-to-average height guys. I don't usually like a big height difference.

[–]cookie_monstrosity 1 point2 points ago

It's 119% worthless from an evolutionary standpoint, but my penis clearly enjoys sexual dimorphism.

[–]name_with_a_y 0 points1 point ago

Well, then. :3

[–]Andreeew108 1 point2 points ago

I think that's why no one will dance with me at bars -__- I'm 5' 3.5"

[–]Shamwow22PERCEPTRON THE MIGHTY! 0 points1 point ago

That height sounds cute, actually.

I don't meet guys who are shorter than me very often, but it might be sweet to cuddle with a guy a little smaller than me. If I met a guy with a really great personality and good looks, then the height difference wouldn't really bother me. The reason I don't like taller guys, is because they tend to be so immature and shallow about their height, where they act like "I'm better than everyone else", or say shit like "I could throw you around." It just makes me want to say "Fuck off and grow a personality."

[–]RUgay230 0 points1 point ago

I'm 5'7'' ... didn't think that was too short..

[–]teshiron 3 points4 points ago

At least he had the balls to tell you he wasn't interested. What's worse is when you're talking to someone, you get to the part where you exchange pics, and he mysteriously stops talking.

And no, I'm not ugly. It's worse, I'm average. =P

[–]gbr4rmunchkin 0 points1 point ago

balls?

yeah not my type.... 'BLOCK'

[–]teshiron 0 points1 point ago

See, I thought it was a case of him actually saying "Hey you're not my type" instead of just a random block/ignore/stop-talking.

[–]gbr4rmunchkin 0 points1 point ago

online is NOT real life

EVER

95% of the guys on 'those' sites are basically trawling for random cock in some fucked up sex.

AIDS tastic

[–]kyzu 3 points4 points ago

And what's wrong with that? Do you know if you're someone's type immediately after meeting them?

Unless you're talking about a guy who'd talk to you for an hour after seeing your picture and THEN saying you're not his type looks-wise, yeah, that's kind of ridiculous.

But the reality is we want to date/have sex with people we find attractive, everyone does it. So if you're not into, say, fat guys...you're not an evil person. If you're not into blondes, that's okay too. Attraction is not a choice.

[–]gbr4rmunchkin 0 points1 point ago

considering I wasn't overly fat at all it's a bit much to expect instant rejection over one photo unless you're obviously spamming EVERYONE

There always ONE person who feels the need to respond like this

But the reality is we want to date/have sex with people we find attractive, everyone does it.

some people have stupid standards. If you dot even know your type etc.

Type in this context is meant to mean nothing like the magical image in your brain..

[–]kyzu 1 point2 points ago

So what are you mad about exactly? That the guy didn't find you attractive? I already said if the guy saw you and THEN talked to you (thus wasting your time), you're right. But if you're upset that the guy didn't fall head over heels over you after showing him your image, well then, that's life.

[–]gbr4rmunchkin 0 points1 point ago

~~just the gay dating gam

hating the player not the game

[–]kyzu 4 points5 points ago

I have no idea what you just said

[–]KiltedMan 0 points1 point ago

Seriously. You try to get to know them and then get the wall o' silence. 9_9

[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] 0 points1 point ago

Apparently?

Even worse is getting dropped by one guy then finding someone cute and interesting and thinking up a message in your head to send them before coming across this.

That people are actually out there actively seeking "short term dating" blows my mind. Who the hell puts a planned obsolescence expiration date on relationships like that?

[–]gbr4rmunchkin 6 points7 points ago

short term dating implies not sure if wanting casual sex or relationship

I am happy with freinds who hang out but I mean come on short term is ALWAYS ad hoc

[–]hardestprofession 4 points5 points ago

Short-term dating doesn't necessarily mean putting a time-limit on it; it means just not taking things seriously. If you're actively looking for a long-term relationship, you're looking for something much more serious.

Dating doesn't need to be serious- you can just go on dates with people for fun without a plan.

[–]igrek312 3 points4 points ago

the worst thing is talking to someone with both parties expressing interest, and then he asks to hang out and you say yes and then he stops talking to you. it's like what the fuck

[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] 7 points8 points ago

YES

THIS IS ME

THIS IS WHAT I AM EXPERIENCE

[–]KiltedMan 5 points6 points ago

Try messaging back and forth for days only to be stood up after a two-hour drive. I don't mind traveling (within reason) to meet someone if they're going to be the right person. But seriously, that's damn rude.

[–]igrek312 2 points3 points ago

seriously; boys need to grow some balls and say what they intend and not be douchebags

[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] 0 points1 point ago

Do you usually tell people you're angry with them, or just let them walk away with no notice forever?

I've got a guy who just this week is apparently not interested. Texted every day, all day, siad he was interested, stuff like that, and then one day I decide to see if he'll be the one to say hello if I don't get impatient and do it myself. Going on 5 days without a word.

Really tempted to just be like "So I take it you're not interested in me."

[–]KiltedMan 1 point2 points ago

I told the one guy who stood me up that it would have been nice to know we weren't going to meet before I wasted four hours of my time. That said, it was a beautiful drive down to Annapolis, MD. Watching the cadets walk around in their dress whites also didn't hurt.

[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] 0 points1 point ago

Well, hopefully. That's a given.

But what if you'd only texted and he disappeared?

[–]KiltedMan 0 points1 point ago

I'm wasn't angry, just irritated. So I don't wish him any ill will, if that's what you're referring to.

[–]igrek312 0 points1 point ago

don't give them the satisfaction.

[–]Keui 0 points1 point ago

Assuming I understand the situation (guy you like, was going well, you stopped texting him), might I observe that you're kind of playing games with him right now? Is it possible he's just sitting there... wondering where you went? Perhaps too insecure to respond without being prompted by your texts?

I ask because a lot of your relationship gripes on here I can generally agree with, but it's like you start elaborating and by the time you finish I'm not sure I still agree, this being one instance.

[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] 0 points1 point ago

It was going okay. I had to say something each day or he'd say nothing, he didn't respond particularly entusiastically after the first few days, and his statuses on facebook implied he was talking to, and more interested in, someone else.

Too late now anyway. I dropped him on facebook just earlier. He's not a shy or insecure person, by any definition of either word.

[–]Keui 0 points1 point ago

Fair enough. Excuse my silliness, I was just curious and hope you can forgive me questioning your judgement here.

[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] -1 points0 points ago

Well you did make me get all nervous and feel like I did the wrong thing...but...ok.

[–]WeLoveKanjimari[S] -1 points0 points ago

Also now I am aware that I apparently noticably make lots of submissions/comments about being lonely and having awful experiences with guys and I feel stupid about it. :<

[–]Keui 0 points1 point ago

Now I feel bad. Don't feel stupid about it. If it's any consolation, I only notice it at all because RES tells me I upvote you a lot so I notice your posts more. You're at +27 right now :P

[–]KiltedMan 0 points1 point ago

You're not the only one. ;-)

[–]Blindplus 0 points1 point ago

It could mean that a lot of people found it funny. Which it is. Because it's true.

[–]Mileskitsune 2 points3 points ago

I sorta did this once, he sent me a pic and well, he looked like my brother, he looked like he could be my brother's brother more than I did. the convo quickly died...

[–]KiltedMan 0 points1 point ago

There was a guy I went out with who looked normal in his pictures but in person looked a lot like one of my cousins. I had to break the news to him why it wasn't going to happen.

[–]Ryanestrasz 2 points3 points ago

These... are the words i hear the most.

[–]hyperforce 2 points3 points ago

Haha, where is this from? Fierce GIF!

[–]theislandking 9 points10 points ago

Ryan Higa, "that Asian on Youtube". He's funny. Hold on, I'll find his bromance video

Edit: Here you go

[–]iowno 0 points1 point ago

I actually really like this song. Thanks for the link!

[–]capncorbyGay Fish 2 points3 points ago

Thanks to Hook on Fonik I can now red at a fivth grade level

[–]miroslavic 0 points1 point ago

Which of his videos is this from?

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