Way to be judgmental! I'm not a bad parental figure - I'm his favorite of the three he's got, most days. He's a good kid and I don't take it out on him. It's not like it's his fault he's young. I may not be experienced, and I may be awkward as hell with kids, but I do the best job I can.

All the same, people are entitled to their preferences and I fail to see why it's necessary to try to shame me for mine.

I was responding to someone (with their own preferences) who stated that I'd like my own more than other kids. While that's true to a point, it doesn't necessarily mean that I'll like being a parent. There are so many people out there who decide to have kids because they've heard the same thing and really end up hating parenthood.

I'm of the firm opinion that if you don't like kids, you probably shouldn't have them 'just in case' you'll like them, or because you like the idea but not the actual work of parenting.

I'm also of the firm opinion that you need to make the best of the life you're handed - make lemonade with lemons, if you will. I fell in love with someone with a child. I didn't intend to, but it happened, and I ran with it. I love them, and I especially love the little booger- but there are a lot of situations in which parenting really fucking sucks, and I really wish I could do without it. Realistically, though, kids are a fact of life, especially as you get older. There's no reason to assume that I'd fall in love with someone who didn't already have or want kids.

I fail to see how I'm such a horrible, no-good, very bad person because I'm honest with other adults about my preferences rather than lying or hiding them like so many others do. Why should I?