I don't know. If you're agreeing that they aren't making a choice then I think your argument completely collapses mainly because breaking several laws isn't a good argument.

Those laws are based on societies choices. Society made those laws that would be broken. This is nothing near as extreme but take for instance America's drinking laws verse most countries in Europe. Europe gives that responsibility to people much younger. Is Europe wrong that they let children drink at a younger age?

Or Canada's laws for consent. I believe you can consent at fifteen in Canada. However a fifteen year old Canadian isn't inherently different from a fifteen year old American. Canada's society has just deemed that fifteen was an appropriate age.

So when your core argument is that it is wrong and breaks laws, well, it's not much of an argument because we're the ones making the laws. So in your eyes it would be right if the law was changed to eight? That's how you're basing your judgement isn't it?

This of course completely excludes that in most jurisdictions homosexual sex is technically illegal still. Even in private behind closed doors it's technically illegal in quite a bit of America. So based on your same logic it's now OK to say that it's wrong and deny them rights?

Clearly I'm playing devils advocate here but I think it should be pointed out that the people against equal rights for homosexuals are against it because they see it as wrong/bad just as we would see pedophilia.