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[–]wHoShOtYoU 1 point2 points ago

I down voted, but then I read the story and I happily up voted. I'm sorry for what happened to you. Some people cannot be reasoned with and it obviously wasn't meant to be. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

[–]motionmufin 0 points1 point ago

I've been with the same woman for over two years and today she attepmted (unsuccesfully) to break up with me via text. I post to this subreddit for the following reasons: When we first started dating we used to constantly fight over how religious she and her family was and how she belonged to a cult called The Way. Eventually I was able to learn all of her beliefs, which included that tounges would keep away demons and that the devil created mosquitoes into the current for through evil, and not long after she began to renounce those beliefs and as she did higher learning (community college) and was shown more. Back to today, after she send me a message and a short reply I called and talked her down from the ledge, metaphorically speaking, and in the negotation she mentioned our paths diverging, our allegided different wants in life, and finally how she wasn't "the atheist girl" I wanted her to be. I'm going to be speaking to her soon and I believe I will call an end to her qualms, but could you provide me with any advise on what course to take, general advise, and how this reflects our relationship along with any opinions on my tale of woe. TL;DR Gf tried to break up because of "faith"

Edit: she decided to break up with me :/ </3

[–]PumpkynPye 1 point2 points ago

Breaking up with you because she PERCEIVES HERSELF to be failing you is the stupidest possible thing anyone can do in a relationship. Remind her that YOU are the one who gets to decide what consists of failure on your partner's part. She doesn't get to decide that she's failing you, the best she could ever do is ask you if she's failing.

If she chooses to break up with you, it has to be because SHE'S unsatisfied. Breaking up with you "because I'm not good enough for you" despite you telling her she is is arrogant and foolish: It implies that she knows what's best for you better than you do. Make sure she understands what it means for her to make this choice for you, in my opinion.

[–]motionmufin 0 points1 point ago

Thank you for this, it helps me. I was going to tell her she hadn't failed me, but I haven't though of what you mentioned in the second part.

[–]VincetheMadMan 1 point2 points ago

What ever you do dont put it bluntly nor should you pussyfoot around. The former will most likly infuriate her and the latter will probably frustrate her to the point of anger. Neither of these you need.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point ago

After your edit all I can say is you dodged a bullet, mac. A woman that will break up with you for those reasons will do far worse when you marry her.

[–]motionmufin 0 points1 point ago

I can't say I feel good about it. Time will tell though I suppose.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points ago

I'm sorry, I know my words must have sounded callous- I hope things go your way man

[–]motionmufin 0 points1 point ago

Title has an error, I apologize in advance.

edit: The Way, a Cult