Fleshlights seem like they'd make good masturbation enhancers but personally I feel using one to pretend you're actually making love to a woman is always going to be a losing game. What you need to do is simulate sexual experiences that go beyond having sex with a "living" woman. Don't worry I'm not going in a creepy direction that involves buying a skeleton and putting a bow on it or anything weird. My idea is to simulate having sex with the ghost/spirit/energy of a dead woman you find attractive. It could be a famous actress or even a woman you knew in real life. Say there was a cute woman in your psych 101 class you sometimes flirted with and were working up the courage to ask out on a date before she got hit by a bus. What you can do is make some sort of glowing plastic orb http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tNHC67TGeJw which you insert a fleshlight into. Rent laser lightshow equipment and get a bag of glitter and place fans in each corner of your room. Using her video blogs find a woman whose voice is a dead ringer and pay her to read a short script for you. Now use your expertise in electronics and computers to set everything up.

At a set time wistfully look through a scrapbook you made of her, printouts from her facebook, screencaps from her vlogs, her obituary, photoshopped pics of you kissing her at your wedding etc. Suddenly the lights shut off and the fleshlight ball on the pedestal in the center of your room starts glowing and a voice says "I have always loved you, I have been watching you mourn me for months now. The overseer has granted us one night together. Come to me. And you strip and approach the orb and the bag of glitter bursts and the fans turn on and the laser light show starts and glitter lights up and flies around the room representing her soul (might want to wear goggles) the voice moans and cries and soon commands you to cum and as you furiously ejaculate inside she whispers "goodbye, I will always love you" and the fans shut off, the laser show stops and your light turns back on as you collapse covered in sweat and glitter and even though it wasn't "real" you no longer consider yourself a virgin.