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[–]willyolio 110 points111 points ago

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not entirely true. most peoples' memories are also selective for happiness; the further the thing is in the past the more fondly you will remember it. So as you grow older, not only is the circle getting bigger, but the blue dot is also shrinking.

People with depression often have trouble with that; their memories focus on the negative aspects and they have trouble remembering joys. for them, as their circle gets bigger, every blue dot in their memory is also growing bigger.

[–]Hapless-Harry 12 points13 points ago

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:)

[–]HardCorey23 13 points14 points ago

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Maybe it doesn't shrink but just turns a different color. Like purple. Purple is nice.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points ago

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purple is for pimps

[–]nuxenolith 2 points3 points ago

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Too often the negative blotch grabs hold of the edges and tries to pull the life circle inward.

[–]live2bass 29 points30 points ago

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This. I've been suffering from depression for over 2 years now, and it's definitely not as simple as "time moving on"

[–]Bored_At_Night 109 points110 points ago

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[–]Kelsomatic 19 points20 points ago

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If people actually do this, fuck those people.

[–]STRONTJESBERG 42 points43 points ago

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People actually do that.

[–]Kelsomatic 8 points9 points ago

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It's seems like by now more people would actually understand that it is a disorder and not just "Aww shucks, I sure am feelin' glum." Blows my mind how ignorant people can be.

[–]ChagSC 17 points18 points ago

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Well there is two types of depression. One is medical. The other is feeling sad. A lot of people who claim they are clinically depressed when they are not. This leads to saturation of the term and the actual depressed people being stigmatized.

[–]elustran 5 points6 points ago

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Something else important to remember is that you can be depressed without feeling 'sad' - apathy, anhedonia, lack of motivation, anxiety, etc, can still present themselves without necessarily feeling like curling up in a ball and crying.

I.e, depression =/= sadness.

[–]Kelsomatic 1 point2 points ago

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Well I believe that the term was originally medical term although I am not entirely sure. I think the reason why people use it to mean just sad, when it really means a whole lot more than that, is just out of people not really understanding what it means to be depressed and just saying it when they're feeling down. But I entirely agree with the over saturation of the term and the stigmatization. People should just stop using "depressed" unless they are actually clinically depressed.

[–]Elkram 11 points12 points ago

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It isn't ignorance. It is basic human interaction. If someone hasn't experienced depression before, they have no comprehension of what is happening. So, in order to try and relate to somebody that is depressed, they get to the nearest thing they have had to depression: sad. Obviously these aren't the same thing, but this is what happens. The person, trying to not be hurtful and trying to relate to somebody they care about and see is hurting, they try and relate to times in their lives that they were sad. They say to the person that when they were sad that they just tried to x, y, and z, or they let time pass, and eventually they snapped out of that sadness. It isn't the person being inconsiderate of how depression is different from sadness, it is them trying to cheer up somebody the only way they know how. Obviously, once you know what depression is, and how it is a neural problem, rather than a temporary one, the comparisons between sadness and depression become mute, but most people haven't taken psychology 101, so they don't know this. Just try and be the friend who does understand depression when your friend has it, and tell them to go to a doctor. Don't tell them that everything will be alright with time because that hollow promise does nothing for them.

[–]myfrontpagebrowser 0 points1 point ago

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If only doctor's weren't so hit and miss... Also expensive and a pain in the ass to schedule with.

[–]shaker28 4 points5 points ago

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It doesn't help that these same people will say they're suffering from depression just because they had a bad day.

[–]HatesRedditors 3 points4 points ago

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It's not ignorance. Depression sucks, but when you spend a lot of time, or care about someone with depression issues, it's hard on you too, and it's hard to maintain sympathy when you're worn down.

If I had a friend who was always complaining about his hand hurting, I'd get annoyed. "Dude, sorry your hand hurts, but there's medication for that now, you don't like who you are on it? You don't seem to like who you are off it too much either."

[–]myfrontpagebrowser 0 points1 point ago

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What they don't tell you about medication is the months, even years, of shitty medication that doesn't do much of anything for you.

[–]Innominate8 2 points3 points ago

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It's kind of strange.

Most people are willing to admit that all manner of mental illness exists and that it's real and crippling.

Then when faced with an actual person suffering from something that person is not mentally ill, just lazy, or an asshole, etc.

[–]TheMarshma 0 points1 point ago

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Depression is a hard thing to grasp. Should name it something else. Since we've all been "depressed" it makes us think, oh he's just being a debby downer.

I still don't understand depression. Even looking at this. if my hand was all bloody like that, I feel like I would still want to try to have a good time. Its just hard to understand.

Also if he's really truly depressed he should ask these guys to talk to him, not to go out to the movies and clubs with him. no?

[–]Bored_At_Night 0 points1 point ago

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Since we've all been "depressed"

What you've been is ignorant.

And based on the rest of your comment, you still very much are.

[–]StuartGibson 6 points7 points ago

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That or "what are you depressed about?"

[–]Kelsomatic 1 point2 points ago

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That hurts to read.

[–]callmesuspect 1 point2 points ago

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As someone who was depressed for a large amount of my time as a teenager, I will assure you, EVERYONE does that. "Stop being so sad all the time you pathetic fuck" one of my friends once said to me. Multiple times I was told that if I couldn't be cheerful around my friends, I wouldn't be invited to hang out with them anymore.

I'm much happier now and not friends with any of those people.

[–]Hey_Its_That_One_Guy 1 point2 points ago

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To answer your un-asked question... people do actually do this.

[–]Kelsomatic 1 point2 points ago

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Hey wait... aren't you that one guy? You did that thing?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points ago

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Yeah but also, fuck the people who just walk around with a mangled hand and never get any medical attention for it and just want sympathy for their mangled hand.

[–]Battletooth 0 points1 point ago

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It doesn't matter how much I see this comic. I always feel uncomfortable. I don't know if I was medically depressed but I was pretty depressed for about 2-3 years... I hate how dead on this is. It makes me remember going through it. It was horrible. Luckily I'm fine now, so that's why I'm not sure if it was medical depression or not, but it was a horrible experience still...

[–]Liefx 6 points7 points ago

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As someone with depression, I don't focus on bad events, I agree with this chart. I just have this underlying sadness and feeling of uneasiness, that I don't belong here. I'd rather focus on events, than have this.

[–]live2bass 2 points3 points ago

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Yeah, I can see where you're coming from. I guess we each just have different ways of dealing with things/different perspectives.

[–]myfrontpagebrowser 0 points1 point ago

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I get hit with both, when the depression comes.

[–]throwawayyay11 2 points3 points ago

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I suffered with it for 9 years. It was impossible to believe there was ever going to be a light at the end of the tunnel, but life surprised me. Hang in there!

[–]live2bass 1 point2 points ago

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Thanks, I really hope life surprises me too :)

[–]prurient 3 points4 points ago

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I feel the same way as you. I've never been clinically diagnosed with depression, but it's something I've always been carrying.

Even though I can feel happy and others (eg friends and significant other) have contributed to happiness, it seems that depression always follows closely behind.

[–]stagier_malingering 0 points1 point ago

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Hey, so, I'm not sure if this applies to you but:

Have you considered looking into Dysthymia? It, and Cyclothymia are terribly under-diagnosed because a lot of people who have it don't feel like it's serious enough to actually be depression (or bipolar, in the case of cylothymia), and thus never really seek help.

If the symptoms sound like yours, and you'd like them to lessen or potentially stop, please consider visiting a mental health professional

[–]JmasterD 1 point2 points ago

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I have been suffering for years as well, and although I seem to be at the depths of it, I think we just need to remind ourselves to live in the moment, even if its not the moment we want or need. Im in my "troublesome" 20's as they call it. But one thing that keeps me holding on is that there is so much I havent experienced in life, and theres that light at the end of the tunnel we just have to slowly work our way there. I don't mean to preach I just hate to hear when other people are suffering. You are not alone.

[–]myfrontpagebrowser 0 points1 point ago

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Im in my "troublesome" 20's as they call it.

I've never heard of that before. I know teenagers tend to be vastly more depressed than the rest of the population, but are 20 year olds also above average?

[–]suzepie 1 point2 points ago

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I hope you won't take this as condescending, but I've been suffering depression for 30 years, and time actually does move on, eventually. I'm afraid that two years is a very short span of time in the great scheme of things. When we talk about a diagram like this, we are talking in terms of decades, not months or years, I believe.

Personally, the things that were worth dying for at 17 are vague memories now, or don't exist at all. The things that seemed unbearable to me at 30, I've lived through and moved on from. I know how dire my depression was, and how troubled I was, but I'm just not there anymore, and my life is not "there" either. Finally getting professional help made an enormous difference. But you have to have some patience with the process, and with the disease, and trust that it will pass. Good luck.

[–]myfrontpagebrowser 0 points1 point ago

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I'm glad for you, but this is not always the case. My experience is very different. Depression is a bit off and on for me (though my exgirlfriend (geographical difficulties) argues that even when it's off it's still there more than I know/notice). And the offs and ons can be periods of days, weeks, months, or even years (years broken up by bad days here and there). Yours may be similar here.

Where I definitely differ is that the key elements of my depression remain constant. I don't remember the particular events that were the main triggers or stressors during my teenage years, however I know that the main themes were the same: a sense of alienation (loneliness, isolation), and a sense of failure (do to memory that remembers personal failures) which in turn creates a sense of powerlessness as well as self loathing. I may not remember what the specific failure or alienation or powerlessness was, but those fears and troubles are the same (particularly the alienation).

[–]myfrontpagebrowser 0 points1 point ago

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See a doctor. They're hit and miss, and they don't help all that much, but just a little can be enough to crawl and, more importantly, to keep crawling even when you get pulled back in.

[–]live2bass 0 points1 point ago

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Thanks for the advice, I've recently been trying a couple of new counselors/psychiatrists and hopefully I'll see some improvement

[–]DanTheManVan 1 point2 points ago

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It's called rosy retrospection.

[–]Freeside1 0 points1 point ago

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the further the thing is in the past the more fondly you will remember it.

I call this the SNL effect. Every SNL cast had some really terrible skits, you just forget them, and conclude that the last cast was way better than the current.

[–]CitizenPremier 251 points252 points ago

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[–]bohknows 117 points118 points ago

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You should get that checked out. It seems to be spreading.

[–]sleepwithafryingpan 45 points46 points ago*

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plus the edges aren't clearly defined and it appears to be scabbing. this definitely looks like it could be malignant badeventonoma.

[–]DrunkDoctor 48 points49 points ago

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I've got just the cure for that.

[–]lesbiancarwash 13 points14 points ago

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The only doctor I trust.

[–]ratlater 6 points7 points ago

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I prefer Dr. Beam.

[–]orko57 6 points7 points ago

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I prefer my doctors to be Scottish, preferably from Islay.

[–]ratlater 1 point2 points ago

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I got burned out on the Islays after several years of loving them and drinking them exclusively. I recommend Speysides when they start to taste... overwrought? They eased me back into a greater appreciation for whiskeys in general.

Whiskey re-hab, if you will.

[–]mrrocketphat 1 point2 points ago

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Join us over at r/scotch. You may enjoy it

[–]mrrocketphat 1 point2 points ago

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If you haven't already, check out r/scotch

[–]Mugford9 3 points4 points ago

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I prefer Dr. McGillicuddy.

[–]Xhafzotaj 0 points1 point ago

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Who?

[–]centerbleep 4 points5 points ago

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a very temporary and inefficient solution.

try some of this ...

[–]PCPONFIRE 2 points3 points ago

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People with depression most definitely should NOT try psychedelics. That's a quick trip to a nightmare that you can't escape for 8+ hours.

[–]centerbleep 0 points1 point ago

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in that case there obviously needs to be a shaman present... and preferably some dmt... might as well leave this here...

[–]LaziestNoveltyAcct 80 points81 points ago

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much more realistic

[–]IMasturbateToMyself 22 points23 points ago

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That resolution is not very realistic to me.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points ago

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It's called alcohol.

[–]The_Magnificent 0 points1 point ago

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True enough, but that doesn't change the meaning of the text and only lends to confusion of the image, thus making the statement less powerful.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points ago

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At least the recollection of the biggest events get blurrier as senility starts to sweep in.

[–]SoundSalad 0 points1 point ago

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[–]Wollff 0 points1 point ago

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Came here to post this. Thank you for doing all the work for me.

But damn you for stealing the karma!

[–]nichole123 29 points30 points ago

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i need to remember this picture when my kids are teenagers.

[–]TheFAJ 87 points88 points ago

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Just come back to reddit for the repost ;)

[–]Jsherms85 11 points12 points ago

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Already a repost come back for the rerepost

[–]braumeister 9 points10 points ago

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Good luck getting a teenager to listen to any form of reason.

[–]HappyDays7 15 points16 points ago*

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Yeah, then when they become an adult it will all magically solve itself and the stupid teenagers certainly won't become stupid adults.

[–]TheSeashellOfBuddha 2 points3 points ago

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Teenagers are so chock-full of hormones that every brain fart feels Nobel price-worthy, every emotion is magnified ten-fold. With time, that gets better. So, yeah, stupid teenagers can become normal adults.

[–]braumeister 4 points5 points ago

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At the age of 16, the idea that you're rebelling against the status quo by doing the complete opposite of what your parents tell you does not make one stupid. The feeling that you're superior and more intelligent than authority figures does not make one stupid. I was a teenager once too, no one is calling anyone stupid.

[–]nichole123 2 points3 points ago

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i do it every wednesday with a group of 10 teenage girls ;0)

[–]codemonkey_uk 2 points3 points ago

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This belongs in /r/nocontext

[–]awshutup 2 points3 points ago

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They will hear it now. It will sink in around three years. They will find it useful in four years.

[–]Pretty_Odd1111 57 points58 points ago

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this is extremely relevant for me today seeing as it is the 14th anniversary of my mom's death and i found out an hour ago that my uncle won't live past today.

[–]dejerik 47 points48 points ago

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I'm sorry dude, if the condolences of an internet stranger mean anything.

[–]Pretty_Odd1111 1 point2 points ago

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thanks, it does mean something, you could have been mean

[–]Bored_At_Night 11 points12 points ago

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You're going to die too, eventually.

[–]Vorketh 21 points22 points ago

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I know a lot of people might read this and get upset at you, but it's worth adding that this perspective really can help. My grandfather died 8 years ago. My immediate reaction was to think - "He's gone, just as all of us will be. Does feeling miserable for any length of time do anything to improve my memory of him, or fill any voids he may have left? No." And with that, I decided not to mourn his loss at all. He was a cool guy, I learned a bit from him, and he always liked me as well, since we saw eye to eye on a lot of things where neither of us were able to with the rest of the family, but feeling sad about that being gone doesn't make any of it less true, or make any of our experiences worth more. So at his funeral a few days later, I walked by, looked at his lifeless face, and said goodbye without then or since shedding a tear because what we had was good, and feeling sad would be pointless. I hope when I go, people do the same for me. I don't need anyone feeling sad that I'm dead. Won't help me, won't help them.

[–]OneBigBug 1 point2 points ago

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Sad doesn't have to have a point. Sometimes it's just how you feel. I think if you can avoid suffering because of it, that's great for you, but it's also worth pointing out that people who feel sad because a loved one died shouldn't feel frustrated with themselves because they should 'know better' or something.

[–]myfairkatie 2 points3 points ago

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This is one of the best outlooks on death I have ever read. I have been lucky enough so far in my life not to have any close family members or friends pass away, but I hope when that day comes, I am able to embrace this advice. Thank you sir!

[–]413x820 1 point2 points ago

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I remember being able to say that, but alas, time passed and I'm not nearly as lucky anymore. It's definitely a life changing experience, but Vorketh's outlook is a great way to deal with it. I feel the same way.

btw, Happy Cake Day!

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[–]hystericalwisteria 0 points1 point ago

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I agree that it is important to cherish good memories, but mourning the loss of someone is an important emotional step also. It is not that they are sad for you or think their grief will change the fact that you are dead; it is a mourning of the future you will not have together. Yes, one should love the life led by the departed and hold dear the fond memories shared, but as human beings with emotional attachments, it is also important to acknowledge the sorrow that comes naturally with losing someone for whom you cared very deeply. Remember, funerals are not for the benefit of the deceased.

I also lost my grandfather, to whom I was extremely close, and while I remember with love the moments we shared and the lessons he imparted to me, I also shed a few tears even now years later when I think of him. It is not because I am sad for his death or that I never moved on; it is because I loved him dearly, and still sometimes mourn what more he could have taught but was unable, what words and embraces we could have shared but never again can.

I commend you if you are truly able to relinquish grief the way you suggest, but tend to wonder if you are in truth suppressing rather than accepting.

[–]Pretty_Odd1111 1 point2 points ago

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i know, but death still sucks

[–]Mandraix 1 point2 points ago

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That seems unnecessarily hateful.

[–]strikezone 9 points10 points ago

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I don't think he means it in hate. It's just a fact of life, that death comes. Shying away from that only makes death worse when it does happen.

[–]probably_a_bitch 7 points8 points ago

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Where's the hate?

"Everyone you know someday will die. Instead of saying all of your goodbyes, let them know you realize that life goes fast, it's hard to make the good things last, you realize the sun doesn't go down, it's just an illusion caused by the world spinning 'round."

Kind of comforting, really.

[–]Mandraix 0 points1 point ago

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I'm not disagreeing, but I don't see the social tact in putting it that curtly to someone on the anniversary of a family member's death, while another family member is short for this world.

Though I will concede that in that interpretation 'hateful' is probably not as applicable a word.

[–]raging_asshole 0 points1 point ago

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Exactly. To look at it in an even bigger way, 100 years from now, nearly every single human being currently living on this planet will be dead. 100 years after that, it will be as if most of them never existed (except for the existence of their descendants).

The human life really is a lightning strike - the briefest flashes of illumination in an infinite darkness, bright and all-important during their short existence, but transitory and easily forgotten.

[–]SkepticalGerm 1 point2 points ago

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I saw this Banksy quote in another thread today, I think it might help you feel just a little better.

"They say you die twice, once when you stop breathing and a second time, later on, when someone says your name for the last time."

May they live on through the memories that they have left behind.

[–]Pretty_Odd1111 0 points1 point ago

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that's very kind, and thank you :D

[–]GhotiHook 1 point2 points ago

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TIL that other people besides me are having a shitty time right now. Thanks for the post FakePlasticShrimp and to others for keeping me grounded.

[–]TheLovelyPineapples 22 points23 points ago

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I hate to be "That Guy" but doesn't this picture go against the Rules of /r/pics ?

[–]omniforce 3 points4 points ago

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Do you 'hate to be "That Guy" ' often?

[–]TheLovelyPineapples 0 points1 point ago

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Well, hate is a strong word... Maybe it's more "I wish it wasn't necessary to be "That Guy," but since no one else said anything I will be."

[–]BritishEnglishPolice 2 points3 points ago

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Yes ಠ_ಠ

[–]pandora9715 2 points3 points ago

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Almost every single post here does.

[–]tcostart 1 point2 points ago

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Too bad the mods won't do anything about it.

[–]mks351 9 points10 points ago*

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This implies that life experience is always a solely function of age; however, I know that life experience is not always such as the amount of life experience I have is greater in relation to many whose age is larger than mine. I deduce that I can say this due to the image's other implication that one's ability to cope is the ratio of life experience to negative experiences lived.

So, with my 22 years, I have experienced:

  1. death of both grandfathers at age 3.
  2. emotional neglect for lifespan.
  3. physical abuse by mother starting at age 12.
  4. physical abuse by father starting at age 14.
  5. family dipping below poverty level (unable to provide food for the month, going without food for prolonged periods of time) from ages 14-16.
  6. manipulation by mother to perceive entirety of family as being negative figures in my life attempting to hurt my mother who presented herself as an saint-like figure starting at age 12.
  7. death of father unexpectedly at age 15.
  8. personal funds left to self by father stolen by mother from ages 16-21.
  9. death of long-term boyfriend to leukemia at age 20.
  10. emotional abuse by boyfriend for 4 months at age 21.

Now, I'm picturing a graph. That graph has emotional_wellbeing as it's y-axis, age as the x-axis, inflection points would be negative events (possibly positive as well as i'm sure they also affect one's ability to cope), and the slope would represent positive/negative/no change in emotion.

I would say that inflection points in the graph would be the negative events; the slope surrounding these inflection points would be the reaction to these events. This would imply that full recovery from these events (acknowledgement of them...however you define "recovery) would also be inflection points.

I will use myself as an example.

I would say a more-or-less straight line (as I have no data to pin-point small ups and downs as i'm sure the changes are near-negligible) until age of 3 when I lost my grandparents, my dog whom I loved, and had my third birthday all in one week. The change in concavity of my graph toward a negative slope would occur (possibly several changes after each event). I remained sad for a couple weeks (again several small changes in slope due to small events like getting ice cream...etc), returned to normal.

Emotional neglect for lifespan (by parents) resulted in my baseline being different than most as I began to develop dissociation disorder causing me to become "numb" during life's trying moments; my recovery was faster because, unless called upon, the event lay largely in the back of my mind. This becomes important in measuring recoery time later. Now, to continue:

Physical abuse by mother would result, obviously, in a rapid, negative change in concavity; my dissociation would kick in, and all would be forgotten in a few hours. Father's physical abuse was forgotten in weeks. Poverty level where hunger and emptiness at not being able to do things other kids do (outings, meals at school-my mother hid this from the school as she was embarrassed to say we were poor) lead to less of a change in slope as my dissociation kept me from thinking about it.

I won't go into details about the rest, I think you all get the point here.

Now, I will propose why my method of using a line-graph would be best suited for determining maturity (which I will define below) than the OP's graph.

This is where I disagree with the ability to define one's ability as proportional to life experiences. I don't think they can be graphed this way. I would propose graphing in this sort of way and measuring one's recovery time from these sorts of events as well as the time at which they remain stagnated emotionally from these events. That, I believe, would be a true test of one's ability to cope with difficult situations.

So, I now would say that age does not imply life experience; there are many adults who have more "age" than myself but whose life experience is less (there are fewer events that would cause an inflection in their emotional wellbeing as compared to mine). I would say that the more events one experiences would be a greater indicator of one's ability to recover. If anything, one could argue that the probability of having more events would increase as age increases.

Now, if you were to say that life experience is also the negative events that occur; this could change things entirely. I think it's hard to separate the two, personally. So, I called life experience the rate of change of slope between inflection points and the negative events the inflection points. I would expect greater maturity (if you are assuming that maturity is defined by those who take less time to recover from negative events, i.e. quicker return to "baseline") to be within those whose change in rate of emotional state decreases over time when measured after negative events.

If anyone else has an alternative method, I would be greatly interested in hearing about it. As any scientist would say, there are always better methods. This feels like it was incoherent and probably a waste of time.

Edit: Began thinking some more as if there would be some way to define a function, but obviously that woul dbe impossible as it is clearly a stochastic process (non-deterministic, sporadically-changing function).

[–]RockyRococo 0 points1 point ago

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THANK YOU! I'm not going to write out all the details, but I'm ten years older than you, and have shared a lot of these experiences myself. The OP just comes off as ignorant and self-righteous. OP seems to only think in terms of years, and not the actual damage done by these 'negative' experiences.

Although I'm sure his intentions are good, and might help with some minor 'negative' experiences, he's really showing off his lack of life experience, or perhaps we should say 'wisdom', defined as actually understanding his life experiences. The gross oversimplification he presents marginalises a great number of people that have suffered through terrible or inhumane (note: not just 'negative') experiences, depression, bipolar or probably the best example proving the diagram is bullshit: PTSD. A few seconds can really fuck the rest of your life up.

OP, take your chin-up attitude, and pull it out of your ass with the rest of your head.

[–]mks351 1 point2 points ago

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Now I'm trying to think of how to incorporate personality disorders into this........

It adds a whole other dimension. There goes the next 20 minutes... Expect an edit soon.

[–]RockyRococo 1 point2 points ago

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The OP reposted this...some guys had a good idea. The blue dot was converted into multiple blue dots...Some of these dots bleed, or diffuse blue into the white, turing parts or all of the white segment off white with a blue tinge, based on severity and individual circumstances.

One guy had a really poignant comment. He said that he watched his son being born, and at 13 years of aged, watched him die painfully of cancer. He now looks back on good memories, but everything is tempered with his loss and sorrow.

Things scar people. You can't expect an amputee to just suck it up and be physically 'normal', there is a parallel in psychology, I would imagine. Permanent damage to one's emotional state; it's a real thing.

[–]RayadoEstrecho 0 points1 point ago

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Ha, reading this is like listening to my own inner voice. I frequently find myself analyzing/contemplating some arbitrary thing or idea, only to come to the conclusion that it was a pointless exercise and then dismiss it.

[–]mks351 0 points1 point ago

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Glad I'm not the only one!

[–]jmart762 10 points11 points ago

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This can also be applied for why time goes by so fast when you are older, and when you are young the school year lasted forever, etc.

[–]ecelini 1 point2 points ago

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came here to say this. thank you.

[–]DMH222 11 points12 points ago

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Wouldn't a person be more likely to have bad experiences as time goes on therefore making the ratios more or less the same?

[–]omgimcryin 15 points16 points ago

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But no one event will ever seem as bad as it would have

[–]lotrdev 4 points5 points ago

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More bad experiences would be different blue circles not an ever expanding single blue circle. The blue circles represent just one significant bad event that both people experienced.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point ago

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One might argue such a person is more likely to know how to avoid bad experiences; in any case each individual bad experience represents a smaller proportionate impact on the dot. Think of the way an hour seems like an eternity to a child but like nothing at all to an older person.

[–]Bonki_ 0 points1 point ago

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It's comparing ONE event happening to two people, one older than the other.

[–]ProjectD13X 0 points1 point ago

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But you get better equipped to deal with future events from past ones, assuming you try to learn from them.

[–]theghostofme 6 points7 points ago

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Depends on the event, and the person. Some people can handle personal tragedy very well, while others can't at all. To say that it's "one size fits all" is a bit disingenuous.

[–]powernut 2 points3 points ago

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An important bit of life experience is that platitudes are bullshit.

[–]BritishEnglishPolice[M] 2 points3 points ago

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You broke rule # 1 in pics.

[–]evildwarf 2 points3 points ago

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I've had near on twenty years of depression on and off and been on some serious meds for it. I still agree with the idea in this graphic though. When I was 20 my depression ruled my world, now I still live with it but I have a far better perspective. I've had some nasty stuff happen in my life, but eventually you learn to move on, not forgetting, but not letting it hold you back either.

[–]Ikimasen 15 points16 points ago

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I disagree. Sensitivity is not a function of age.

[–]jennay_jean 14 points15 points ago

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I don't think it's about sensitivity, but rather that our ever increasing experience makes us better equipped to deal with and put in perspective the issue that we are being sensitive to in that moment.

[–]ProjectD13X 3 points4 points ago

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Seconded, also, one has more time to reflect on an event. I remember some bad experiences from not even a year ago, but I've reflected on them, and realized that I made it through them with what really matters. I'm not happy go lucky by any stretch of the imagination, but I've gained a new perspective about things.

[–]Ikimasen 0 points1 point ago

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Still, you've never seen, say, a middle aged person go into histrionics over something small and inconsequential?

[–]isdevilis 0 points1 point ago

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I think what he meant was that the blue dot grows also, not that the blue dot wasn't meant to be that big in the first place.

[–]suzepie 0 points1 point ago

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Perspective can be, however.

[–]robertmmoore143 5 points6 points ago

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Those are some very lopsided boobies.

[–]HeyFlo 0 points1 point ago

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Big boobs are happier!

[–]LifeObserver 1 point2 points ago

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So this is what happens when /r/GetMotivated is in self post only mode...

[–]Lampshade_Seven 1 point2 points ago

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I like this, nice post.

[–]cannedmath 1 point2 points ago

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I can confirm this!

The dick of the guy who raped me when I was a little kid seemed a lot bigger, back then. Now I realize that it was actually quite small!

[–]OUTLAW_CptDan 1 point2 points ago

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Very well said.

[–]gloomdoom 1 point2 points ago

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Here's the problem with this theory: Some people have more blue dots and larger blue dots. And as you get older, you add more blue dots. And those dots can either diminish with time or alternatively, they can get much larger, almost cancerous.

So with time as your experiences increase, so do the blue dots in a lot of cases. I don't think people realize how traumatic life really is when you look at it on the whole. We deal because we have to but as we get older, we become bitter and we become distant and suspicious and paranoid. That's the nature of age and wisdom.

And if I could put wisdom into perspective, yes, it's made up of knowledge and intellect and information and intelligence but it's also made up of a great deal of pain, regret, mistakes, doubt and insecurity.

I think the movie, 'Magnolia' puts life and death into perspective in a way like few other stories can. Or reading 'The Myth of Sisyphus' by Camus. Anyone who thinks growing old is this revered process that brings clarity and wisdom is mistaken. It's just that most older people are so toughened and removed by the things they've experienced, they tend to handle it with more grace and realism.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points ago

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"What seems important / won't last forever" - Filter

[–]zerus 1 point2 points ago

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Except for herpes. That shit will stay with you the whole way.

[–]Katz_Vailo 1 point2 points ago

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Thank you for that.

[–]413x820 1 point2 points ago

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This is also why grade school years seemed to last so long as a kid compared to a year of life as an adult. For instance, as a fourth grader, one year of school was 1/10 of your entire life. As a 30 year old, one year is 3000% less than that. Feel free to correct my math, but you get the point.

[–]JmasterD 1 point2 points ago

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I think of myself as the little circle with the blue dot, the blue dot that haunts me now. I found this diagram to be very refreshing. I even put it as my background so I can be reminded everyday that the blue dot is just a small part of my life. Thanks for putting up such a feel good post! :)

[–]monolife 5 points6 points ago

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My girlfriend of 4 years, the girl I wanted to marry, dumped me a few days ago. I'm 24 years old. You have perfect timing. Thank you.

[–]Bonki_ 5 points6 points ago

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It might take months or years, but one day you will be so happy you didn't marry this young.

[–]Rigelface 3 points4 points ago

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I realize you're trying to be comforting, but why didn't you phrase it as "you'll be so happy you didn't marry the wrong person" or "you'll be so happy you didn't marry her only to end up divorced" or something? What does age have to do with it more than the other factors?

[–]Bonki_ 0 points1 point ago

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What does age have to do with it more than the other factors?

Life experience.

Edit: ...and time to get to know himself in depth.

[–]ProjectD13X 1 point2 points ago

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Truly sorry for what you're feeling right now mate. But what Bonki_ said is right, also as time goes by you'll start to reflect and you'll probably be glad it's over and done with. Best of luck to you

[–]cmasfca 0 points1 point ago

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My girlfriend of 5 years, whom I was going to propose to in two months, called for a break to date other people. This happened a few weeks ago. I'm finding it easier to drown my feelings and sleep rather than let my mind keep me up. Final quarter before graduating university, zero fucks given. Know what I should/need to do, cannot find motivation to do so. Fuck I need to stop doing drugs.

[–]Bonki_ 2 points3 points ago

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How come most people seem to not be getting the point of this post?

[–]enormousl 1 point2 points ago

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Wish i had this diagram when i was having a talk with my sister about her first boyfriend...

[–]nagooyen 1 point2 points ago

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Oh I get it, it's an optical illusion and both circles are the same size!

[–]Britishfrog 1 point2 points ago

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Thank you

[–]Ciaran007 1 point2 points ago

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Being 16 having just broke my femur when I was supposed to represent my country in World Junior Ultimate Frisbee championships this explains what I'm going through right now perfectly, Thank you very much for sharing this.

[–]RockyRococo 1 point2 points ago

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There's world juniour ulitmate? TIL...

Sorry about the femur...that must of hurt like a bitch. How long until you're up and moving again?

[–]Ciaran007 0 points1 point ago

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Yeah It's pretty new, still awesome.

My brain dealt with it surprisingly well in terms of calming me down. They told me 6 weeks, I had the surgery Thursday and today I had physio so It's looking good.

[–]RockyRococo 1 point2 points ago

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um...so how does one go about breaking the strongest bone in the human body? Car accident? Drunken jump off a balcony? Sports? Motorcycle, bicycle accident? You weren't skiing this time of year, were you?

[–]Ciaran007 1 point2 points ago

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It was a freak break as the doctors described it, I was messing around with my friends and a frisbee, I hit my friend in the head with the disc, he charged at me he's about 6'2" and I'm about 2 inches smaller and 2 stone lighter than him, I went to brace my self for the tackle but it came quicker than I expected. my left foot was in mid-air and my right foot was at 90degrees from my body, the weight of the tackle and the wet ground caused my leg to snap. Next thing I knew I had kicked myself in the face and I looked down and saw my leg crack back into shape.

TL;DR Hit my friend with a frisbee, didn't get to brace myself, wet ground leg snapped. freak accident really

[–]inuyome1008 1 point2 points ago

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I. So. Needed that today. Thank you.

[–]meikamo 1 point2 points ago

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Boy did I need that.

[–]Coolfuckingname 1 point2 points ago

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The salient fact isnt that i have more life than you,

its that ive been numbed by pain

and can no longer feel as deeply as you.

Thats the truer statement as i see it.

Kids have no filters. They feel everything. Adults have learned to numb experience through thoughts, words, food, drug, distraction. I know i have. Why do you think im on reddit?

[–]VarynTanil 1 point2 points ago

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I disagree. I don't deny that in an instantaneous sense, the extreme negativity I might feel at a given point in time will diminish, but logically I'd accumulate a fairly constant degree of negative experiences throughout life, maintaining an approximate ratio of negativity.

If that's the case, then if my current ratio is already quite large, I'll still be rather miserable in 10 years, I'll just have even more confirmation of reason to be miserable.

That said, there are events in my life that occurred when I was under 10 (over a decade ago) that I still view exactly as severely as I did at the time, and in some cases more-so, while the majority of "generic" memories (Those of non-extreme emotion) fade away. That leaves me with a large quantity of extreme negative memories, and the incredibly scarce extreme positive memories. In that sense, my perspective on my life as a whole is becoming increasingly negative as I age.

And that's how I bummed myself out for today. Damn it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points ago

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logically I'd accumulate a fairly constant degree of negative experiences throughout life

If you accumulate a fairly constant degree of negative experiences throughout life, you haven't really learned anything by going through them. Obviously there are negative experiences beyond our control (death of a loved one) but loads are negative experience are within our control. It takes a while to figure that out.

[–]TooHappyFappy 1 point2 points ago

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You were under ten, and it was over a decade ago. I'm going to estimate you are around 20. And, as a 26 year old, let me tell you... your whole view on this is going to change. The change will noticeably start in the next year or two, and you'll look back in 5 and be amazed at the changes. You may not believe it now, but it will happen. It happened to me. Is still happening, I'm sure.

You're mindset is going to change a lot in the next 6 years. You're going to learn that you won't survive when you look at it the way you do now. Too much happens in life. Negative things hurt, yes. But it's all about your attitude and mindset with life. Take the bad things, get through them, bear it out and then move on. And, every time you do that, you increase your appreciation for the positive things. Simple things (nature, stars, good conversations with friends) become that much more important, that much more enjoyable.

Things may be kind of dark now. While I don't doubt bad things have happened to you, you're still alive. There's so many wonderful things in this world, you literally couldn't see all of them in a lifetime. You just have to go out there, grab them, appreciate them. The more you do this, the more you take the bad things for what they are- necessary events in life. If it's a death, you truly learn how to appreciate the person's life and feel joy at the memories with them. If it's someone hurting you , you'll learn you don't want them in your life anyway and you'll actually remove them from it. (note: if it's physical abuse, get help. I'm not talking about that. Shit is serious, and goes to another stratosphere)

Positivity and the decision to live a happy life is the only way to be happy. You can have anything else... but if you don't consciously decide to be happy and remain positive, it will never happen.

You'll understand at some point. That's the point of the picture, someday you'll get it. And the sooner you do, the better your life will be.

[–]RizzoFromDigg 0 points1 point ago

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The bad spot is also smaller on the right one, so that kind of fucks this up...

[–]willowpje 0 points1 point ago

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This is inaccurate at the least, as some others here have said (who were downvoted, I don't know why). First of all, the size of the blue dot (negative event) is different for everyone. Circumstances might make a blue dot bigger for one person than the same dot would be for someone else (for instance, coming out to homophobic parents vs. coming out to understanding parents). There might also be a lot more blue dots for an 18 year old than for a 30 year old, as people will have more than one negative things happen to them as they age, but they're not equally divided over people or over time.

Assuming a 12-year-old person A encounters a negative event and 60-year-old person B remembers the same unfortunate event happening to him when he was 12, there's still a chance person A will see it in a brighter and better light than person B. Person B might have seen much more negative events in the past, or have a different (less effective) coping mechanism. Let's not even begin to talk about several negative events happening at the same time.

[–]atheistjubu 0 points1 point ago

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Could be explained with simple labels, leaving the audience to elegantly infer the rest. Instead spends a paragraph smugly explaining the message.

[–]Cyloo91 0 points1 point ago

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This post just really helped me. I can only afford to give you 1 upvote karma on this thread, but thanks.

P.S - I'm upvoting everything else you posted to make up for it :D

[–]Sariel007 0 points1 point ago

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I am older than you so I have seen this reposted more times than you.

[–]ProjectD13X 0 points1 point ago

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I can relate to this. I got dumped about 2 weeks ago by my first girlfriend in 2 years on my birthday. But you know what? I wasn't crushed by it, I'm young, thinking that every relation I have will be "The One" is silly. Did it suck? Kind of, I felt lonely again, but did it suck for as long as other break ups did? Hell no. I've got my best friend in the whole world who was there for me when it happened, I had all my friends from my schools debate team who were all ready to tear her a new verbal asshole, and I've still got the things that bring me joy in life like music, science, and history.

[–]stripsobacon 0 points1 point ago

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I'm high, and this doesnt make any sense...

[–]Fideon 0 points1 point ago

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this is stupid

[–]redditspice 0 points1 point ago

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experiencing more and becoming numb does not make you wiser
STFU cunt

[–]1Bad 0 points1 point ago

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AddsGooglyEyes has been here.....

[–]brookDAbitch 0 points1 point ago

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After having a relatively bad experience of my own today, this actually made me feel better.

[–]Destynie 0 points1 point ago

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For some reason this makes me think of 9/11 and the USA.

[–]ForeverAllOne 0 points1 point ago

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yeah, well, no.

[–]5ft11flip 0 points1 point ago

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I should show this to people entering the nursing program I'm in. In the nursing program, you always get that one person who thinks that they're better than everyone else because of previous medical experience.

[–]oldscotch 0 points1 point ago

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TLDR: Old people are difficult to please.

[–]infinite0ne 0 points1 point ago

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This also explains why time seems to pass faster as we age.

A unit of time is a smaller and smaller portion of our life as we get older.

[–]CrabbyMonday 0 points1 point ago

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so says the 18 year old to a 16 year old....

[–]SadTruth_HappyLies 0 points1 point ago

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I've found this way of thinking to be very valuable. I got it from Red House Painters.

[–]Fooza 0 points1 point ago

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Just added a page to my parenting book. May not be 100% accurate but it is an elegantly simple way to explain the idea.

[–]Rommel79 0 points1 point ago

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Lots of teenagers online need to see this.

[–]Thorse 0 points1 point ago

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Both circles aren't the same size. I put them into paint and the negative in the smaller circle is slightly bigger as it has a slightly thicker border.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point ago

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I've been looking for this. Thanks for posting.

[–]ToxicLavaZombie 0 points1 point ago

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The white area of the larger circle represents reposts...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point ago

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A+ for not having a twist joke ending

[–]SuperSaiyanNoob 0 points1 point ago

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Heh. You're right. Fuck her.

[–]TheDroopy 0 points1 point ago

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Well that's condescending if I've ever seen it.

[–]bricardo 0 points1 point ago

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I think the assumption that we all carry the same amount of pain is not accurate at all. What is surprising, in my experience, is the difference a good night sleep and the morning sun can make in one's thinking.

[–]smallklein 0 points1 point ago

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This is awesome, hope this is original content lol, upvote!

[–]neonbrights 0 points1 point ago

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I really don't think you can explain human feelings with statistics/math. It may feel like m logic, but this is just one way to look at it.

[–]da-sein 0 points1 point ago

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Right, because we can measure experience and the impact of certain events accurately by drawing circle's approximating their relative size and importance....

[–]gc3 0 points1 point ago

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Tits.

[–]hungryChard 0 points1 point ago

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unless that dot grows with the rest of your experiences because its a permanent part of your life

[–]Ringo45[!] 0 points1 point ago

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A similar explanation tells why time feels to move faster and faster with age: a year, day, or even hour is proportionally much larger when we are young compared to the amount of time we've lived through when we're older.

[–]what_ok 0 points1 point ago

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Now you know why i cried when I let go of my balloon, dad.

[–]cosmical 0 points1 point ago

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Like 9/11 for Americans as compared to the rest of the world and its history.

[–]lo_and_behold 0 points1 point ago

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I think this is the best physical description for something I have been trying to articulate for a long time, and would be great to show students just beginning high school. "See kids? This blue dot is aaaaaallllll the shit you're gonna deal with for the next 4 years"

[–]ALLCAPS_NIGGER 0 points1 point ago

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This is how I try to explain younger people that times appears to go faster when you're older. A week in the life of a 1 year old contains 1/52 of his total lifetime as a human being. A week in the life of a 10 years old contains 1/520 of his life, and so on.

[–]ToughCashew 0 points1 point ago

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While I would agree that time and experience are the best ways to heal wounds, not all "events" are stagnant. Unfortunately, some grow with you.

[–]goliath1333 0 points1 point ago

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Interestingly, this really highlights why a "traumatic" event is much different than a "negative" experience. When traumatized, an individual cannot move past or isolate a memory. You are constantly or arbitrarily confronted with it. For someone who has been traumatized, the entire circle is constantly shifting between white and blue, outside of their control.

[–]Honeymaid 0 points1 point ago

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Blatant ageism; the amount of life lived !correlate directly to lessons learned or experience.

[–]rantberries 0 points1 point ago

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This is a good infographic for this phenomenon. I experienced an emotional trauma when I was 17 that involved the death of my first real boyfriend (as in, the first time it wasn't puppy love). When I was 27, the girl down the street who was around 19 or so, had her boyfriend die, too. My parents, without my consent, brought her over for me to talk to her about it. I had no choice, being that a natural disaster had recently destroyed my home, so I did.

She mentioned that I had obviously moved on with my life (by this time I was married). She said she couldn't see herself ever loving another man in that way. All I could tell her was some garbled thing about how at first, it seemed that way for me, too. But after a year, it didn't hurt so bad. After another year, I tried dating again (with not-so-great consequences, because past me was a terrible judge of character). After six years, I met my future husband. At that very moment I was speaking to her, if I looked back and dug around in the event in my mind, it hurt a lot, but most of the time it was as if that event had happened to someone else. Technically, it had, because I was nowhere near the same person I'd been when I was 17. I don't think I helped her very much at all, but in a year she brought her fiance over to our house. So something happened.

It would have been nice to show her this picture.