Are you kidding me? In the late 80's, calling a homosexual "queer" resulted in a least a verbal berating from the offended party, or was used by the offending party as an insult. Cut to mid 90's, and the phrase has been high jacked by the movement, ie, "We're here, we're queer, etc etc." This used to be the case for almost all derogatory phrases used to belittle homosexuals. It was the one part of there movement that I found to be truly innovative - taking the phrases and slurs used by the opposition and embracing them. You certainly did not see that in the civil rights movement...

I'm not suggesting that such terms should be used. I was simply lamenting the loss in the LBGT movement of this unique way of dealing with these slurs - it completely removed the stigma the asshole using them were trying to introduce to society at large.

Now, instead, folks within the movement (or supportive of it) are calling out posters on reddit - a web site - the for use of a phrase as offensive, thereby giving a phrase that has been in use for years (and too my knowledge getting more chuckles from LBGTs than offense) and giving it the power to offend. This is a step backwards in my opinion.

Also, I award you zero points for linking to urban dictionary. While it may show that one - ONE - individual defines a particular phrase a certain way, it is certainly not indicative of society at large. To be frank, the folks that submit definitions to UD can make almost any phrase offensive.