It happens too much, honestly

SuperCow1127 · 1 year

As a host, that would make me feel like there was something wrong with my food.

Also, if you don't accept my bread and salt, I can kill you without worrying about guest right.

mtupyro · 1 year

Taking a big dump is also extremely awkward in a house that's not yours.

DangerousCommercials · 1 year

I'm currently working as a "tutor" two an older woman (at least 75-80ish), teaching her how to use her computer, internet, etc.

Back in like Dec 2010, when i first started helping her, she offered me hot chocolate. I politely accepted. She ended up, legitimatly making it with heavy cream melted chocolate, and whatever else old school recipe style. I said it was delicious, but it was litterally the HEAVIEST thing i ever had. it was like eating a huge dinner. So i said thank you and that i liked it.

The next time i went there, she made it for me without me asking. actually she made it for me for the next 3ish months while the weather was still cold. It was actually kinda sad cause i sort of figured it out that she was making it so I would stay longer talking to her while I finished it. I fucking hate the drink because of how heavy and uncomfortable it makes me feel for the 20 minute walk home but I always drank it when she offerred cause i thought it would be worse to say i didnt want it.

made myself sad and feel like a douche typing this comment.

grahamhewlett · 1 year

Isn't it more rude to deny the gift of food they are trying to give you? They didn't offer it to you because they didn't want to give it to you.

elixalvarez · 1 year

i am never more uncomfortable than when i am in someone else's hospitality

MagicSPA · 1 year

No guest of mine ever gets away with doing the 'polite hunger' thing.

And they don't go sober for long either, if I can help it.

frank26080115 · 1 year

You are making your hosts uncomfortable

Knowing that fact might solve your problem

karl-marks · 1 year

According to Count of Monte Cristo you are probably seeking revenge against your friend.

Seriously, I feel like fucking "Dear Abby" or "Miss Manners" but you need to learn how hospitality works, once someone has you in their home and you are under their hospitality, dictating the level of hospitality you will allow them to provide you is an insult. This is true in almost every culture on the fucking planet for as long as we have had records.

When someone staying with a host rejects food, no matter what the intent is, it comes across as "your food and hospitality are shit". A home is not a fucking ala carte hotel, either eat the persons food or I will assume you're plotting the destruction of their family for offenses they committed against you under an old name.

Cronus88 · 1 year

It's funny because in actuality you're actually more rude to the host by refusing the food than eating it. They're probably thinking that you don't like their food.

pioprz · 1 year

Repost

rghd · 1 year

Socially awkward penguin is better when it's more universal social awkwardness.

This is just Asperger's Penguin.

azzwhole · 1 year

DAE eat as much as possible at their friends' houses, asking aggressively "Yo what you got to eat?" every once in a while?

[deleted] · 1 year

It's not so much I want to deny it, it's just I'm never hungry.

I get bad social anxiety when staying at other houses, whether it be family members, roommates, friends of friend, or the friend him/herself popping in and out. I get all nervous and nauseous and I can't eat, so I say no to food and feel like a jackass :/

Same thing with poopin'

Tflypat · 1 year

Ah yes, of course, unless there is weed involved then I'm eating half your kitchen.

Cobarde · 1 year

Half of the people in this thread would starve at my house.

I run by the 1 hour guest rule. For 1 whole hour, I'll treat you like a proper guest. I'll show you where things are, what not to bother, and all that jazz. After that hour you're no longer a guest, get whatever the hell you want.

"Where's the drinks?" Hmmm, I'm gonna assume the kitchen. Go get e'm. "Can I have...?" Stop asking me dumb questions and just get it. Seriously, I don't invite people back to the house if I don't have the stuff to handle them. Want food? GO GET IT!

Need to take a massive shit? That's what doors are for! Close it and we'll be cool! Mine don't smell like Lola Bunny either!! Honestly, it's not that big a deal.

Dekkres · 1 year

Am I the only one getting gateway timeouts to imgur?

[deleted] · 1 year

The fuck? Eat drink and be merry! FFS!

superiority · 1 year

Well, of course. I mean, I don't want to impose.

thevideoclown · 1 year

Your obviously have a weak friendship if your afraid to ask for food

GenericDuck · 1 year

This happens to me every time I go overseas, even when I stay with friends. For some reason the different climate and relatively different surroundings, just don't make me comfortable enough to eat as much as I would back home.

skybike · 1 year

"Nah I'm good."

Not actually good at all.

[deleted] · 1 year

I used to be like this when I was younger. Now I always eat what's offered, even if I don't want it. It makes them feel uneasy when they offer something and you reject it. Or I'll ask for a glass of water because it doesn't seem like mooching (it's water) and it makes me seem comfortable which makes them comfortable.

The_Unreal · 1 year

I had friends that attempted to decline food. Mom took that as an insult to her personal honor and cooking skill, then redoubled her efforts.

Our household may well have been almost single-handedly responsible for the rise of childhood obesity.

DefinitelyRelephant · 1 year

If you're not grabbing stuff out of their pantry/fridge, you guys aren't friends.

Dexiro · 1 year

I have a friend that ALWAYS declines food/drinks and it pisses me right off. How do people not realise that declining hospitality makes the host uncomfortable and other times it's outright rude, people like helping others.

For example we'll be a a BBQ and the host will accidentally cook too much food. This one guy will just sit there not eating or drinking while everyone else is having fun and might even have the nerve to say "I'm kind of hungry, I might go home in a bit". The host even cooked him an entire pizza this one time as a ploy to get him to eat something and he somehow thought it was more polite to just let the pizza go cold on the table :/

Mattyfaz · 1 year

Always happens, especially because I'm not a big eater...

baddietrash · 1 year

I do this. Have no idea why.

[deleted] · 1 year

Who cares? Your guest certainly doesn't. Eat if you're hungry, shit if you're full of it.

Kijamon · 1 year

Haha, brilliant. This is true of me.

Somehow I can last a good day without eating in a polite setting but in my own home I can't skip a meal and function

LuridTeaParty · 1 year

I'm not following why people are getting so angry in this thread. Why are people this prone to feeling insulted?

It seems either people feel privileged or expect privilege. Here, either people tend toward the notion of, "you're a guest in my home, you should feel privileged" or "you're a guest in my home, I am privileged to have you".

Mix the latter in the former's home, and you get what I suppose I feel I see in this comment section.

sonofsandman · 1 year

This happens to me at my cousin's house.

vmos · 1 year

Here's how it works

"would you like some X ?"

"Nah, yer alright"

"Are ye sure?"

"Mmmm, nah"

"Ah, go on"

"Aye alright then, just a wee bit"

FILL YER BOOTS

gkaukola · 1 year

Bah. I'm getting old or something. But this, along with most of the comments, strikes me as supremely juvinile. People shit. Who the fuck knew? We're modified symmetrical worms basically that take in matter on one end and discard the unnecessary parts out the other. This is news? This embarrasses you? Then you still haven't progressed beyond 5th grade.

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soggy_cereal · 1 year

Friends? Go on...

TheShitOfABat · 1 year

I don't get this one at all.

HuntTheWind · 1 year

This makes no sense.

nebbish · 1 year

Is this the US? In the UK it's rude to decline food.

Fitz11 · 1 year

You're doing it wrong man, never decline food.

poorsteamuser · 1 year

Fuck that!

If you're comfortable enough with a friend to stay at their house for a weekend, you should be sure as hell comfortable enough to demolish all the food offered.

pabstcity · 1 year

Minnesotans invented this.

toothblanket · 1 year

Do people really get fucking upset if you refuse food? I accept if im hungry and decline if im not. Im not going to force feed myself so your feelings wont get hurt.

ShakespierceBrosnan · 1 year

I am on a special food plan. Have been for ten years. My weight is stable and I am very healthy. I must decline food all the time. Some people don't mind (in fact, are somewhat interested in the food plan) and others react as if we're blood enemies from a past life. I find that the common denominator among the "blood enemies" is that they are more into food personally, and feel/fear that you are criticizing their eating habits. Also, I find that the less secure the individual, the less positive the reaction.

tl;dr: been declining food for years. people respond based upon their level of self-acceptance

[deleted] · 1 year

I read this differently, as the OP is such a picky eater he doesn't eat or like anything beside the three things his mom makes him.

TopOfTheCrop · 1 year

I've been staying at a friend's house for 3 weeks and counting. I've eaten there maybe twice.

slapded · 1 year

http://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/k4enn/it_happens_too_much_honestly_fixed/

gillysirl · 1 year

If you are a guest in my home I would expect you to make my home your home. You should eat, drink and use the toilet. What's all the "I won't use the toilet" talk? It's a TOILET. That the purpose of a toilet, to eliminate the waste from your body. Strike a match if you are concerned about the smell and flush as many times as you need to. Come on over, the flushing is fine. :)

7zark77 · 1 year

This is what fat people do. They like to try and convince people that they don't really eat and it IS their glands after all. Fucking tubby liars.

BrueFrameHerrion · 1 year

But when they are at your house they eat everything...

Thestassinator · 1 year

My friends mom calls me the vacum cleaner because I clean out the fridge, not a problem for Thestassinator.

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