Is that really the case? Early christians were all peace loving hippies? I might believe for the in-group, yeah they probably didn't judge themselves, but those in the out-group, were definitely being judged harshly back then and not treated very lovingly (why else were there all those rules to follow, if you didn't follow them you were a dirty sinner).there were many injustices going on then that jesus didn't even think to mention, he was more concerned with his end of days predictions and with showing up to a gathering of sick people and saving one of the crowd of hundreds (sucks for all the other people there) . And aspiring to live like jesus is a fool's errand because he was hardly even on level with the "best" morality of those times back then. Let us not forget jesus never dismissed the horrid teachings of the old testament, never condemned the actions taken by his jealous and vengeful god (which was actually him..? ), and well.. may have never even existed. When a majority of the world did live by what jesus taught, things were far from being perfect...

Anytime I hear about the loving jesus, I am always reminded of, "Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man's foes [shall be] they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me."