he does it to girls like it's no big deal

I don't do it to girls, but I don't object to / try not to have them doing it to me.

See, I don't want to be dedicated to an intimate relationship like that unless it's going to be perfect; as in, we have no conflicting personality / opinion differences. This is an extremely unlikely scenario, and I understand that, so I'm fine with it never happening. But if she were to show interest in dating me, I'd oblige for as long as we could have a healthy relationship.

Plus, if she shows interest in me, that's a huge green flag right there; I know that she agrees with me that it's stupid how girls in Western culture are usually confined to being approached by guys, and it's seldom the other way around. So there's already one big opinion / worldview we have in common. If she never shows interest even though she is interested, that's already a dealbreaker; like I said, I don't want to be friends with someone who I have conflicting worldviews and personality with.

EDIT - I feel I should elaborate so that I don't seem to be contradicting myself / being unrealistic.

I understand that meeting a girl whose personality, worldviews, opinions, tastes, etc. are literally identical is so unlikely that, from a practical standpoint, it can be called impossible. But when I say conflicting, I mean conflicting; not just differences, but conflicting differences are what make it a dealbreaker.

Here's an example involving food:

I have some weird things with food. For one thing, I don't like sharing food when it isn't needed*. A lot of girls really like sharing food at restaurants for some reason, and I don't get why. For the other, I'm a really picky eater; I don't like many fancy meals, and only a few countries of foreign food (Mexico (very lite versions of their foods), Italy (same as Mexico), and France for baked goods only).

Now, if she does like sharing food, that conflicts with me not wanting to share food. But if she doesn't like the same foods as me, there is no contradiction. I can eat the foods I like, and she can eat the foods she likes, and when we have to cook one single thing it can be one of the things we both like. I don't have a problem with someone liking different foods as me.

I do see a problem in the way some girls / people would handle this: rather than just let me eat the damn foods that I like, they'll cook things that they know I don't like, and then make me eat them because they'll be offended if I don't. That's a contradiction. I don't try to (almost-)literally force my food opinions down your throat, so I'd like it if you didn't do so to me.

Now, that said, I can still see how it's almost impossible for me to meet someone and twice as close to impossible to meet a girl with no conflictions to my personality in theirs. And until you do meet such a person, relationships are really unstable. Friendships are nowhere near as unstable, because there's so much more tolerance. It's stupid, but our psyche seems to take a lot more shit from friends than it does from SO's. You will therefore almost never have a really big breakup with a friend; you can pretty much continue being friends with them until you just drift apart, but you'll never really have one decide to stop being friends with you. So it's a lot safer to have the people you'd really care about losing be platonic friends, and the people you just want to have sex with be... fuck buddies, for lack of a better term.

*Sharing food when it isn't needed as in sharing food when the other person could have gotten their own easily. If we're at a restaurant and she doesn't order something even though I'd be paying for it, tough shit; I want to eat what I ordered, and you could have ordered it for yourself. If I'm in class eating something and someone else couldn't bring food, and it's a long class, and they're hungry, I have no problem with giving them something. (Probably because I remember when I was younger and my parents couldn't afford to give me a school snack every day, and very small numbers of the other kids were willing to spare anything.)

TL;DR - I don't friendzone girls, but I also don't actively seek intimate relationships with them except on very rare occasions. And at first sign of something that could ruin everything down the road, I pull out. <--That sentence was not initially meant to be a dirty joke