As a fairly unattractive female, when my male friends start talking about hot chicks they know/want to bang

SamIsHereNow · 1 month

If it makes you feel better, most men want to bang their friends and they wouldn't admit it in front of you.

D2theAVID · 1 month

Am I the only one who scrolled the comments to see if OP was coerced into posting a picture?

psychobilly1 · 1 month

But OP, you said you had a boyfriend last week.

I_SHIT_KARMA · 1 month

Inb4 whiteknight train

Choo choo

imanerd000 · 1 month

And that's why i never talk about women in front of other women.

flownmuse · 1 month

Huh. Whenever I hear my male friends or coworkers talking shit about hot chicks they want to bang, I'm usually relieved that I'm not dating any of them, instead of wishing they were talking about me that way. ;D

ValhallaAriane · 1 month

I know that feel, lady-bro.

RookieMonster · 1 month

Fuck it, I'll bite, and at the risk of having this comment dug up in three months time during an argument with some SRS-er about whether or not you can rape someone with your eyes or something equally absurd.

You are not unattractive, you a human being and fantastic by extension, do not put yourself down it will only make things harder.

Some people who have severe facial deformaties or open festering wounds are (externally) unattractive, but I doubt very much you would have described yourself as 'fairly unattractive' if that were the case. So we can assume that you have nothing blazingly wrong with you, you just have low self esteem and don't live up to the unattainable high standard that advertising sets for you whilst unfairly half a dozen of your acquaintances do. Let's assue you're somewhere between about 4 and 6.9 out of ten.

If you want to be 'attractive' you can, it's within your grasp, this is true of men and women. You can lose weight and gain muscle, there are roads to run on and you have willpower to be in control of what you eat, if you want to be 'attractive' then you have no insurmountable obstacles, only poor excuses. You have the greatest research assistant every created at the tips of your fingers, if you want to know what clothes would suit you best, just fucking google it. There's no excuse. If you want to know how to apply make up; google it and then do it. If you want to grow your hair, just stop cutting it because you're nervous and want a change. If you want blonde hair, dye it and stop dying it other colours because you think a change might help.

This all comes with a parental warning. Being 'attractive' isn't and shouldn't be the end goal for anyone. It makes you no less valuable, what does that is your own self esteem and the time you spend alone thinking about how you're not worth anything.

I just re-read your title, I think I over-reacted a lot and might end up deleting it. I'm sorry if I offended you, but I find it hard to see people put themselves down publicly because I can only imagine what they feel privately, and I don't know you but I can say with certainty that you will have thousands of invaluable assets to those around you, you being attractive (if you want that) is not out of your reach as long as you take action in favour of it.

badorigin · 1 month

Confidence the fuck up op

Scott_MacGregor · 1 month

Low self esteem AND into beards? (judging by earlier comments). I have a shot here!!

Squidraider · 1 month

That gif makes me so sad... :(

Wetkeys · 1 month

As a decent looking man, I have this sort of dynamic with my ladyfriends.

"That guy is cute!"

"I knoowww. Look at his butt!"

"Hey, Wetkeys. That guy you were hanging out with, you know, your best friend. He's hot!"

devilcraft · 1 month

They also talk about that brand new Ferrari car but end up happily driving around in a Volvo. Or are you an old Trabant?

EDIT: Trabant, not Trebant. Ty paremiamoutza.

ANGRYjooj · 1 month

Cutest gif ever! Where's the video to this?

TangerineX · 1 month

What I hope women realize is that "i'd bang her" is not the same as "I'd put a ring on that"

JakAndDaxter · 1 month

Look better.

DidNotFinishMyUserna · 1 month

There there, I'll bang you.

VitimanB · 1 month

what is "fairly unattractive", are we talking a 1 or more of a 4?

infinitylantern · 1 month

We need pics to judge your attractiveness. For Science!!

yanksnjets27 · 1 month

Reddit stahp people can be ugly

Pun-Chi · 1 month

This made my heart hurt. Imma still up vote. But my heart... It hurts now...

Expert_on_all_topics · 1 month

if guys think about banging around you, you are not unattractve

Jbs610 · 1 month

You, and only you, are responsible for how you feel. If you are unhappy, take control of your own life and fix what's not working.

If you're unhappy with your appearance, as seems to be the case based on your post title, then do something about it. Not everyone is a supermodel, and sadly, a lot of people (women AND men) seem to think that if they don't look like the people in Victoria's Secret, Maxim or GQ, then they aren't attractive. Bullshit. You don't have to be a size zero and slather yourself with make-up to be pretty, but, at least take pride in your appearance.

If you have girlfriends, ask them for advice. If you have a BFF, confide in them.

Also, one of the biggest turnoffs for guys is for a girl to be a Debbie Downer. I hate to say it, but it's true. If you want a guy, if you want to feel attractive, to feel wanted, maybe take an introspective look at yourself first. I'm sure some people here will say that people should accept you just the way that you are and to some extent that is true - if YOU are happy with the way that you are, and it doesn't sound like you are. Nobody will love you if you don't love yourself first. But guys don't want to be around someone who's gloomy all the time, or takes life too seriously.

Are you fun to be around? Are you in a good mood most of the time, or a bad one? Are you an optimist or pessimist? It's amazing how much an outgoing, funny, or upbeat personality can add to someone's attractiveness.

Just MHO.

tubbstosterone · 1 month

I have a beard. Its all nice and groomed, but I wish it were thicker. I hope that makes you feel better.

wherestheicecream · 1 month

My life!

meghann912 · 1 month

This link could be any gif (or none at all).I have a sneaking suspicion that was not the point of this post...

Tandran · 1 month

I bet OP is beautiful inside and out.

[deleted] · 1 month

You know, if you wanted to share an experience with other people without them putting you down, giving you patronising advice or accusing you of doing it for attention, you really came to the wrong website.

For "I know that feel, bra," you should post to /r/TwoXChromosomes.

trampus1 · 1 month

Judging from your username and how obsessed with beards your post history suggests you are, here's what I imagine you're like:

weird
overweight
dress very homely/tomboy
75% chance of having dreads
82% chance of facial piercings

If this is right, you're the stereotypical lesbo looking stoner girl that nobody really thinks looks good. Wash your hair, slap on some make up and pull the rings outta your face if you want to be seen as a woman instead of just a friend.

SwinginCrabWhacka · 1 month

It's okay because you have a boyfriend.

swth · 1 month

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NewteN · 1 month

Solice: There are probably many more men that talk about you in this manner than you realize. Seriously. Regardless, the post important thing is to purge yourself of the very attitude that made this observation in the first place; it's no so much confidence as it is not-insecure.

probably_high · 1 month

Ugh, I used to have to deal with this. It always sucks. In fact, I don't really hang out with those people anymore, although they are great people aside from that behavior, and that behavior isn't why we don't hang out anymore. But my self-esteem is much higher these days.

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